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Amélie Boukhobza (Clinical psychologist)
What if your relationship isn’t as compromised as you think? One clumsy word, one regrettable mistake, and you’re already imagining the worst. However, our expert psychologist deciphers 7 signs which could well prove that all is not lost and that your story can still be written.
Lately, do you have the impression that your relationship is fading, that a breakup is fast approaching? Good news: even if your relationship is in trouble, it is still possible to save it. Here are seven signs that your story isn’t over, according to clinical psychologist Amélie Boukhobza.
Love in distress… does not symbolize the end of a story
Should we remember it? Every relationship has its ups and downs, turmoil and worries. After a few months or several years, it is indeed common to experience a marital crisis. This crisis may be due to a simple lack of communication or deeper problems: reduced libido, desire (or not) to have children, lack of common projects, geographical distance, etc.
Result ? The magic of the beginning fades and gives way to unsaid things, taboos and arguments.
“Fortunately, even if the arguments keep coming, or the distance seems to set in, there are signs that show that it is not too late“, reveals our psychologist.
Here are all those bringing hope.
7 signs that your relationship can be saved
These 7 indicators show that there is a desire to fight for the relationship, believes Amélie Boukhobza.
1. You continue to communicate, even poorly. “The arguments, the reproaches, the annoyed silences… It’s not pleasant, but it’s much better than total indifference. As long as there are exchanges, there is a chance to rebuild something. The key? Maybe learn to talk to yourself better. And to listen to each other!”
2. Disagreements concern specific subjects. “If you’re arguing over concrete situations (housework, lack of time together), these are issues that can be resolved with adjustments. On the other hand, if the conflicts become global, like a questioning of love, it is more complicated, but not impossible.”
3. You still care about each other. “If you still care about each other’s well-being or feel pain about separating, the feelings are still there, even under the strain.”
4. You still have projects together. “QWhether it’s a planned trip, a weekend or simply a planned dinner, these small projects are proof that you still imagine a common future. A good basis for reconnecting.”
5. You look for solutions. “Reading this article is already a sign of that. If one (or both) of you is willing to put in the effort, see a therapist, or just speak up, that’s a strong signal that all is not lost.”
6. Good memories come back. “Do you find yourself thinking about the beginnings of your relationship with a smile? It’s because there is still room for gratitude and attachment.”
7. You are always touched by the other. “A tender gesture, a smile, even rare, can still move you? This is proof that the link is not completely broken. On the other hand, be careful! A relationship is saved by two people. Not alone!”
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