The challenge is not to be afraid to show yourself as we are.
Being yourself does not engage only yourself. Staying authentic in all areas of life is sometimes a real challenge, since you have to comply with certain societal models. On the other hand, some of us aspire to be more sincere and more in line with oneself. The first characteristic of an authentic person is sincerity. “The person plays no role. He remains faithful to his values, whatever the circumstances”immediately specifies Amélie Boukhobza, clinical psychologist. The person has ability to be in accordance with whom they are, without trying to please everyone at all costs. “An authentic person is not in seduction. She does not try to satisfy the desire of others.” On the contrary, to be authentic is not to be afraid to show yourself as we are, with our flaws, our weaknesses. “An authentic person has no need to handle to have what they want.” She says what she thinks transparently, without cheating, without lying. “Be careful however, Authenticity does not mean brutality”underlines Amélie Boukhobza. Speaking frankly does not mean that one can hurt the other under the pretext of wanting to be yourself. “The balance between franchise and respect for the other must be respected.”
Authenticity is also to have an ear attentive to the other and to yourself. “An authentic person is attentive to her own needs, but often, he also develops a sensitivity to the emotions of others. On the other hand, he does not allow herself influenced by the image of what others expect from them. She can say no when she disagree.” In addition, an authentic person agrees not to always be loved or understood. It inspires confidence and respect.
Finally, it is possible to be authentic in all areas, in different ways depending on the challenges. “Indeed, the authentic person is faithful to his values, but sometimes, in the context of work, the couple or the family, these values are not the same. We can be authentic in different ways according to the fields of our life”, concludes the clinical psychologist.