Lack of time, new priorities, fatigue… When the second baby arrived, Manon and her partner naturally took care of their children, putting their relationship aside, without really wanting to. A period that we rarely talk about, and which can be difficult for parents to live through. She testifies.
“Soon we will meet again my love.” It is with these tender and intriguing words that Manon, 26, aka @manonemeryy on Instagram, decided to speak to her community about the period she is currently going through with her husband, the father of her two young children, Romy and Charlie. These words, other parents could have said them, because what this couple is experiencing is not funny, nor even abnormal, quite the contrary. It’s a phase that most young parents know well, even if they often don’t dare talk about it. For the young mother, this stage has nothing to do with the baby clash, that they lived for the birth of their first child. This time it all started after the arrival of their son a few months ago, at the beginning of 2024. Without really realizing it, it’s as if they had put their relationship on pause.
“We pass each other as if we were roommates, we exchange children, we distribute the tasks to be able to get by or we take turns to have a little respite. We go to bed alone in the evening, exhausted from promising that soon we’ll have an evening, a moment together We miss each other while we’re a few meters apart, we write messages to ask each other things while we’re in. the same house”confides Manon in her Instagram publication, posted on March 27.
In this new daily life for four, everything, or almost everything, has been turned upside down. The young woman admits to us during our interview, from now on her energy and that of her partner are totally dedicated to their two children. It must be said that after a day of balancing work and family life, “we no longer have the energy, or even the time, to devote to our relationship. Due to lack of energy, we don’t even argue anymore,” she emphasizes. It’s as if finally, they are at a distance from each other, not physically, because they live under the same roof and they see each other every day, but psychologically. And when they have a little time to spare, they take advantage of it to “to rest, or to talk about the children”.
Their role as parents slowly took precedence over their life as a couple. Manon is aware of this, moments of intimacy as a couple have become very rare, she sometimes even feels guilty for not being able to do everything, but despite everything, she remains confident. “I think it’s normal for a couple to go through this stage when they become parents and above all, I know that it won’t last. Today, our children are growing up, so we plan more easily, we plan in the coming months to go on outings as a couple. Recently, we are also taking the time to be together in the evening once the children have gone to bed. she reveals to us. For the young mother, it is important during this period to listen to herself and continue to plan moments together with her partner, even if they only last an hour, to be able to stay united as a couple and a parent. .