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It’s difficult to remain calm when every request made to your children turns into a fight, protest or refusal. But according to a parenting coach, there is a tip that will help you convince them more quickly, without any hassle. But what is this magic formula?
Whether they are young or even teenagers, children often have better things to do than help us tidy up, or do the necessary things, such as washing, putting away their belongings, doing their homework, etc. Whatever your parenting style, there is a good chance that you will spend time repeating your requests, or even getting upset so that they finally do something your way.
What you are asking seems “sucky” to them (and yes!)
But why is it so difficult to make yourself heard for a task that seems so simple to you (and which would go so quickly if they cooperated), like brushing their teeth, or packing their school bag. On Tik Tok, parenting coach Tia Slightman then reveals a truth far from our parental perspective:
“Here’s the problem. Everything we ask our kids to do sucks: brush their teeth, turn off their device so they can go to bed, tidy up so they can come to dinner. It’s all boring and crap, so it’s no wonder they don’t want to do it! We ask them to stop doing fun things and start doing boring things.”
At a child’s level, in fact, stopping the activity that they are passionate about to set the table or put away their things does not seem coherent to them. Their first reaction will therefore be simply refusal.
A new organization to do without protests
So how can we encourage children to carry out these boring but essential tasks, without going back on them (there is no question here of “exempting” them). For the coach, the solution lies in the way we approach the day.
“I want you to analyze your day and reverse the order in which your children do things,” she said. “I want you to make sure the things they need to do always get done before the things they want to do.”
In other words, it would be a matter of really taking note of what is causing the problem and always starting each part of the day with the essential things… before the fun. For example, instead of cutting the child off from his favorite cartoon to take out the trash, make sure he does this “sucky” thing and then has the right to sit in front of the TV. A new organization that will simplify the message.
“Just look at your day from morning to night and shift it, so that the “things to do” come before the “things they want to do” explains the expert. Advice that makes sense for many Internet users. “I can’t wait to try this tomorrow! It’s so logical.”can we read under his advice.
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