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Certain signs or changes in attitude within the couple can suggest detachment, or a feeling of loneliness. A marriage coach reveals three rather feminine signs that your wife feels alone and unsupported. And it’s time to act quickly to save your relationship.
In a relationship, one of the most common mistakes is to take the other person for granted, and to stop making an effort. Now, it is not because there are two of us, and married at that, that we cannot feel neglected. This loneliness usually comes from a lack of connection, communication, or commitment from the partner. But to solve the problem, you still need to be attentive to it and notice it. In the magazine Yourtangomarriage coach Grant Robe describes three telltale signs of women feeling lonely in their relationships that husbands should pay more attention to.
She no longer shares her feelings with you
If there is one thing that women do more than men, it is talk about their daily lives, their feelings. They generally share work anecdotes, the difficulties of the day, even their meals, or their pleasant discoveries. But for the coach, a woman who does this, and who suddenly stops talking about her feelings with her partner, is a woman who no longer feels as secure as before.
“You have created a space of emotional insecurity at home, and she cannot open up to that level”explains the coach, “or she has the impression that you are not listening to what she says so she prefers not to say it anymore.”
Vigilance, then, because a breakdown in communication is often the cause of the collapse of a relationship. “We all have difficult days when we don’t want to listen, but we must always give our partner the space to speak their mind and allow them to feel safe enough to do so.” continues the coach.
She no longer “nagging” you to do things
The sign may seem quite cliché, but it is true in many couples: overwhelmed by the mental load, women are often the ones who repeatedly ask their partner for a specific task. Thinking about picking up the children, making an appointment with the mechanic, doing a particular errand…. Now, a woman who stops asking for these things again is not a good sign as these gentlemen might hope.
“It’s a sign of emotional withdrawal. She feels completely alone and abandoned in the relationship, and she’s probably planning her exit.”explains Grant Robe.
If you felt like you were being harassed (even though it was just a normal request) and she stops asking you for anything, see this as a “major” red flag in your marriage.
She makes a complete change in her behavior
In itself, if a woman makes a drastic (and negative) change in her behavior, there is reason to believe that she no longer feels good or supported within the couple. A change that can impact several spheres. For example:
- She was once very talkative, but now she is silent;
- She often tried new things together which she no longer does at all;
- She did everything for the family, and now she takes care of herself and the children, leaving you to your own devices.
“Whatever she did before, if she doesn’t do it now, it’s her way of saying, ‘I know you’re not here to save me. I know you’re not here to save me protect, then I will take care of myself'”, warns the expert.
A warning signal that asks you to react
Do you recognize any of these signs? The marriage coach still reminds us that it is not always too late to put things right… You still have to act quickly! Just talking to him is a crucial first step. “Acknowledge her loneliness and promise her that you will make an effort to make her feel safe if you want your marriage to work.” Promises, however, must be followed by actions. Then it will always be possible to open the debate, to take stock of your expectations, or even to consult a therapist, before making a decision.
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