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How to react to a child in crisis? And how can we help him regain his calm, above all? On Instagram, a psychologist reveals THE phrase that works and can help many parents get through this hurdle.
Cries, tears, difficult attitude… Is your child in the middle of a crisis, and nothing seems to calm him down? Many parents “give up” in the face of this attitude and no longer recognize their child, between attempts at comfort and mounting frustration. Fortunately, an American psychologist specializing in parenting shared on Instagram the phrase you might need in such a situation.
The phrase to know, which reveals your unconditional love
Firstly, Becky Kennedy intends to remind us: this situation of a child in crisis or explosive behavior is completely normal and happens in all families.“Let me start by saying: you are not alone. All parents go through these difficult stages with their child, myself included” she confides. The first key she gives to parents is to regain their calm and remain confident: “We all need to feel good inside to act properly towards others”.
But faced with the tornado that your son or daughter has become, and his current inappropriate behavior, she assures him, this child must hear one thing:
“When your child is going through a difficult phase, he may become rude and not listen to you. He may also start to type his friends at school. Take a moment with your child in the evening and tell them this: ‘I just want to tell you that there is nothing you could say or do that would make me love you less. ‘”
A sentence as proof of your unconditional love that he will not lose, even if he did not know how to manage an emotion.
No, consoling your child does not encourage him to do it again
Do you think that softening and reassuring your child (even though he has been unbearable) minimizes his reaction and encourages him to do it again? This is not the case, confirms the psychologist.
“OWe must get out of this way of thinking! Both adults and children need to feel good inside to act the right way.”.
So, by showing your love and consoling your child it would allow him to feel secure enough to get out of this phase. And this can only be positive for their development and the management of their emotions: “Children need stable foundations, to feel good inside and loved. This is what allows them to make a change in behavior” concludes the parenting expert.
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