During the toddler years, couples have little time to talk to each other – which leads to misunderstandings and conflicts. Many divorce during these years. – If you put off taking care of your relationship for a long time, there is a big risk that it will fall apart, says the psychologist and gives tips on how to prevent this. Having toddlers can be incredibly tough on a relationship. Lack of sleep, lack of time and conflicts lead to many people getting divorced when the children are young. As many as 30 percent of parents of young children divorce, and another 30 percent divorce when the children have grown up. – I saw a pattern during the toddler years, couples had more conflicts and less time together. And that’s not when you apply for couples therapy, says Susanna Tagesdotter Hagstrand, leg. psychologist, in Nyhetsmorgon. She has written a book, “Growing together”, which is aimed at those who want to take care of their relationship during these years – but do not have the opportunity to go to couples therapy. – If you put off taking care of your relationship for a long time, there is a big risk that it will fall apart. Communication is important According to her, it doesn’t take much to try to prevent this. It can be about small things that make the other person feel seen and cared for. Like making a cup of coffee for your partner in the morning. But above all, it is important to work on your communication. – Communication is getting worse, you don’t have time to talk to each other. Then there is often a lot of misunderstanding and conflict. You feel that the other person does not really see you and then you become disinclined to give it to the other person if you feel that you have not received it. The goal is not to have no conflicts, but to work away from destructive conflicts. In the player above, she gives tips on how to argue constructively.
t4-general
This is how you argue constructively during the toddler years
