It’s never nice to feel “rejected”…
An acquaintance, a work colleague, a neighbor… Do you have the impression that this person doesn’t enjoy your company? If we know that it is difficult to achieve unanimity, it is never pleasant to feel “rejected” especially if he does not say it openly. “Someone who does not say things clearly but with whom there appears to be a problem is akin to “passive-aggressive” behavior.explain Maïté Tranzerclinical psychologist. Passive-aggressive is not offensive, on the contrary, it behaves defensively, not frontally. Her remarks are indirect, insinuated, diverted, half-hearted or even hypocritical and when faced with her, we can be downright destabilized.“. His behaviors can be difficult to spot at first.
Physically, know that certain signs are not misleading. Already, the look says a lot about the interest a person has in you. A person who doesn’t like you will have a shifty look, quite hard or filled with anger, and will have difficulty looking you in the eyes. His body expression and gestures may be suspicious: his muscles become stiff and tense, especially when you touch him. The tone of voice changes: she speaks coldly, with short sentences. When you speak, she may blow, raise her eyebrows or make polite “fake smiles”, which are generally easy to detect since it is more of a rictus (only the mouth moves unlike the rest of the face which remains frozen) only real benevolent and spontaneous feelings.
Other behaviors, subtle and insidious, should also be noted. The person does not show any particular interest in you, does not ask you any questions (or even ignores your presence), never initiates a conversation, does not remember what you say to them, or even shows contempt towards you. She puts you in your place or demeans you in front of others, she contradicts you, challenges you, makes innuendoes, constantly reminds you of your errors, your complexes, your faults, under the cover of jokes or sarcasm. She says hurtful words in an attempt to destabilize you emotionally.
Be careful, it is sometimes easy to misinterpret signals and convince ourselves that a person does not like us. The idea is not to see evil everywhere. “If you have any doubts or concerns about someone’s feelings towards you, it is advisable to broach the subject directly with them.”. Even if it seems radical, it will stop speculation. At worst, his look and facial expression will confirm your doubts. At best, this will calm you down and may even allow you to start the relationship again on a healthy basis.