Parenting is far from smooth sailing, which is why any trick you can take when it comes to raising your children is a good idea. One of them is to use three magic words, which, according to one expert, can calm even the slightest tantrum.
Managing your children’s tantrums and screams can be a real challenge. If you often feel helpless in the face of their tears, screams and moods, know that you are not alone. A psychologist has studied the issue and discovered three simple words that can soothe these difficult moments and calm any situation. A magic formula that is as effective as it is easy to apply.
Tantrums are a natural part of a child’s development. They can happen for a variety of reasons: frustration, fatigue, hunger, or a need for attention. In short, when a tantrum breaks out, the situation can quickly become chaotic. That’s why, most of the time, parents look for quick and effective solutions to avoid yelling. While getting upset, threatening, or ignoring aren’t the right methods to use, Becky Kennedy, a renowned psychologist, explains that the key in this type of situation is to connect emotionally with your child. In other words, it starts with active listening and empathy.
A child in crisis needs, above all, to feel understood. Screaming and crying are generally a way for them to express an emotion that they do not know how to verbalize. As a parent, it is therefore crucial to recognize this emotion. The specialist then recommends adopting a calm and comforting attitude. By lowering yourself to their level, looking them in the eyes and speaking softly, you will be more successful in capturing their attention. In addition, it is essential to verbalize what they are feeling, in order to help them put words to their emotions.
And that’s where these three words come in: “i believe you”. Becky Kennedy explains that if the toddler wants ice cream for breakfast, you should respond: “You really wanted ice cream now, I believe you.” But, it is necessary not to give in and to propose alternative solutions. Thanks to these words, the child will understand that he is taken seriously and will then be able to calm down more easily.
As you will have understood, it is essential to make your child understand that his emotions are legitimate and that he has the right to feel them. This creates a climate of trust and security. At the same time, you strengthen the attachment bond and help him develop his self-confidence. So, take note of the magic formula!