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You have been single for a long time and you do not understand why you cannot find your soul mate? If luck (or rather bad luck here) can partly explain the situation, it is not the only reason.
When we talk about a couple, we often say that they were “lucky” to meet. So finding your other half would only be a question of luck? Nothing is less certain. If you are unlucky in love, there are also rational reasons that explain your situation, according to experts interviewed by the media YourTango. Here are which ones.
You let chance do things
We all (or almost) know beautiful love stories that began by chance, during a long-haul flight or a train journey, with love at first sight between the two members of the couple, who have never left each other since.
If they exist, these stories are not the most widespread. On the other hand, meeting your other half at work, during your studies or through friends is much more common. In the same way, there are many places where you can meet new people. If you don’t change your habits, you will never meet anyone.
You change things, but you are not true to yourself.
If you need to shake up your habits, on the other hand, stay true to yourself. Whether it’s in your activities, your clothing style or your beliefs, it is essential not to lie (to yourself) in order to meet the person who will suit you, but who you will also suit. If you play a role from the start, it will be difficult (if not impossible) to maintain a healthy and stable relationship in the long term.
You are not comfortable with yourself
Exuding a certain amount of confidence is essential to attracting others. If you are nervous about going out to meet people, try to do it without putting pressure on yourself at first, just to get used to it. When you exude a natural confidence, you will find that it will encourage others to approach you.
If you’ve tried all three of these options and are still single, the experts we interviewed recommend doing some internal analysis. You may lack self-esteem or have experienced trauma in the past that is preventing you from building a healthy and happy relationship. Maybe you think you’re not worthy of love. In any case, they recommend reaching out to a professional who can help you bring out the best in yourself.
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