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How do you know if the love you have for your partner is sincere? According to psychologists, certain signs reveal that your relationship lacks authenticity and depth… We share these famous clues with you.
Is your relationship as healthy as you think? Romantic relationships are sometimes complicated and yours may be toxic, without you even realizing it! This is why psychologists highlight four signs indicating that your love is not healthy enough. Doctissimo helps you see more clearly in your relationship in order to avoid any toxic behavior.
1) You are possessive
Although you might think that being possessive is proof of true love, it’s actually the opposite. Indeed, people with this character trait have the unfortunate conviction that their partner belongs to them. However, each having their own social life is the key to a healthy and fulfilling relationship. This freedom then allows the couple not to “to walk on” and to better appreciate the moments spent together.
2) You idealize your relationship
Do you want your relationship to look as much like a fairy tale as possible? Be careful, although it is rather pleasant to romanticize your relationship a little, it is nevertheless very important to remember that everything is not always all rosy! In reality, arguments and failures are part of relationships and that doesn’t mean yours is failing. On the contrary, it shows that you live it fully and it is also an opportunity to be able to communicate and benefit from it. Above all, you should not sacrifice your needs and your doubts for the sole purpose of pretending to be the perfect couple!
3) You endure routine
In a relationship, having a routine is not a bad thing, it’s completely normal! However, it becomes unhealthy once you normalize getting used to the other until it generates frustration and you lose your own desires, your goals.
This behavior can also be perceived as a lack of honesty towards your partner or an absence of desire to communicate with them. This love “static” can then be particularly harmful for a romantic relationship. Indeed, in a healthy relationship everyone should feel free to propose new activities and share their opinions, without being judged or criticized by the other. This balance then allows the couple to follow their routine, while allowing themselves small pleasures!
4) You hope for unconditional love
Big mistake ! Indeed, it is important to be aware that the love you have for your partner does not have to be unconditional. On the contrary, this type of love must respect the needs and desires of each partner, while integrating the undeniable element of a relationship, namely: respect.
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