Today, more and more people are using dating apps to find love. One of the popular services is Hinge, whose slogan is “the app designed to be deleted”. Hinge profiles itself as an app for those looking for a love relationship, but not everyone is lucky enough to meet a perfect match.
News24 have talked to Angela Alohadating expert, to find out why so many fail.
The Expert: Red Flags to Watch Out for on Hinge
Many people think it’s scary to date on Hinge
Connecting with people on dating apps can be scary. Aloha believes that there are several reasons for not daring to download Hinge. Some people find it uncomfortable to be so clear that they are looking for someone. Others find it hard to be rejected based on their photos.
– Rejections are heavy, generally for us humans. And it is connected to the fact that we are a herd animal. Historically, in the Savannah era, the social helped us survive. That we got to belong to a herd, tribe or our group. If we ended up outside, we usually didn’t survive, says Aloha.
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Fails to create a good Hinge profile
Of those who actually dare to venture into the dating market, there are many who fail to create a good Hinge profile. Aloha believes that many people have the wrong idea of what a good Hinge profile looks like.
To appear interesting on the app, you have to make a good impression with your photos, text and voice memos. It is also important to write an inviting message to the person you are interested in.
– It often happens that you don’t have a good enough profile to be swiped right. Sometimes they write something far too casual for others to respond, says Ahola.
Hinge Daters Are Shallow: ‘Choice Overload’
If you book a date on Hinge, how you behave on the date is also important. In order for both parties to be interested in seeing each other again, Aloha believes that you have to meet each other emotionally. She believes many people fail at this.
– On the date, we don’t know how to create connection on three levels, instead it becomes more of a job interview, which leads to the whole thing being easily friendzoned, says Aloha and continues:
– There is a psychological phenomenon called “choice overload”. It leads to us sort of drowning in the crowd. When the number of options becomes very high, as on Hinge, we become more picky, sifting, superficial and objectifying when it comes to our fellow human beings.
Many judge those who appear on the app based on their appearance. Aloha believes that many people would have a different idea of the person if they really looked at the pictures and read the text. She points out that you can convey a lot about yourself through pictures of friends, pets and things you’ve done.
– We go for external characteristics more than the personality, which you would actually be able to get a reasonable idea of if we really looked at the pictures and read the text, says Aloha to Nyheter24.
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