If you are in a long-term relationship, it is inevitable that your sex life will become routine. It is possible that you will feel guilty because your sexual relations with your partner have become a bit boring. But there are simple ways you can try to feel your sex life is still going well or to improve it a little more. Music is one of them. British relationship counselor Ness Cooper says having music in the bedroom is beneficial for her sex life.
MUSIC INCREASES GENITAL EXCITATION
“When you pair music with sexual interactions – whether it’s flirting, telling someone a sexual story or fantasy – genital arousal and response increases more than when music is not played,” says Ness, describing research showing that music can have a direct effect on the genitals. According to Ness, studies focusing on neurophysiology and biology reveal that music can make us appear more attractive to our partners.
MUSICAL RHYTHM INCREASES CREATIVITY IN THE BEDROOM
“Music influences how our bodies move and flow according to certain rhythms. It can make us worry less about movement during sex and lead to more creativity in the bedroom,” says Ness, adding that songs that are taught to us as erotic or ‘naughty’ may have a better chance of impressing us.
MUSIC HAS RELAXING FEATURES
Listening to music not only helps the body relax, but also increases the dopamine (happiness) hormone, making you feel happier. Being less stressed and anxious can also increase the feeling of being more willing to have sex. For those who are anxious and nervous about sex, music helps them focus their minds, reducing tension in the bedroom and increasing self-confidence.
MUSICAL WORDS CAN BE THE LANGUAGE OF LOVE FOR WIFE
According to Ness, certain lyrics in songs can help couples communicate with each other in private moments. Words also provide a good form of love language to showcase emotions.
MUSIC CAN MAKE MOMENTS UNFORGETTABLE
According to Ness, the ability of music to memorize moments can make a special sexual experience easy to remember by future partners, and when that music is heard, sexual arousal can occur by remembering intimate moments.
DON’T LET THE MUSIC STOP YOUR FEELINGS
“It’s also important to make sure the music doesn’t overwhelm the feelings,” says Ness.
HOW TO CHOOSE MUSIC?
Ness says that the music to be listened to during sexual intercourse should be relaxing for both partners. Accordingly, you should first talk about the genres of music that you both love and create a playlist that you both will enjoy.