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Your partner ticks all the boxes. He or she has everything going for him or her. But you still think about leaving him or her, even though you have everything going for you to be happy. How can you explain this? Here are four reasons.
You have a loving, kind, respectful and non-toxic partner. On paper, you are living a dream relationship and have everything you need to flourish. However, you are increasingly thinking about leaving this person, despite the positive relationship you are experiencing. How can this be explained?
You are bored and feel like you are missing something
When you have a boyfriend (or girlfriend) who fulfills your needs and meets your expectations, you can unfortunately end up getting bored with him (or her). This boredom will come from a lack of passion in the relationship and will sometimes even cause annoyance, faced with the attitude of the other.
But is it a real boredom or is it just that the relationship lasts over time and the first emotions (the honeymoon) eventually calm down? (Which is normal, in itself). If you no longer feel in tune with your other half, ask yourself these questions, but it does not necessarily mean that you have to break up.
You think you don’t have chemistry with your partner
Looking back on your past relationships, you don’t feel the same chemistry you do with your current partner. Sure, having that deep connection with your significant other is important, but when you think about it, wasn’t that feeling the result of toxic behaviors from your previous partners?
According to Jimmy Knowles, who shares a podcast on the subject taken up by the media Your Tango, “It’s actually more familiar for you to have partners who neglect you and blow hot and cold. You’re used to having to chase them and have to earn their love.”
The unknown scares you
You have always had explosive relationships, with ups and downs, as well as many arguments. This time it is different, your partner is considerate and attentive to you and this ends up scaring you. You fear the unknown that presents itself to you, this relationship that works “too normally” for your taste.
You are thirsty for novelty
When faced with your current relationship where everything is working well, your brain reacts as if it is missing what it is used to and is demanding “something new”.
“If you really want to have a beautiful love story, you must learn to break this toxic cycle” advises Jimmy Knowles. He therefore recommends talking about your feelings with your partner or a therapist. “Don’t hold things back and allow yourself to express those doubts and fears that cloud your mind.” he emphasizes. The best way, no doubt, to calm his fears and move forward in his relationship.
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