Everyone wishes to act in agreement with themselves. Whatever the circumstances, he prefers to behave as should be in a given situation, but, no doubt, the gifted children acquire this imperative very early on, which they live well as an obligation.
When they acted in a way that unpleasantly surprised those around them or even stated ideas that surprised him because these reactions could seem questionable, they do not want to seek justifications, which they themselves would not be Dupes, they would be annoyed to seem to try to deceive those around them, and therefore often their parents, by arguments which they know fallacious or simply lame. They would also be embarrassed to seem to consider them as too naive or too gullible to be convinced by these improbable arguments, it would be an attempt to distort relations between parents and children, while the risk of misunderstanding is never far away, despite the goodwill of the protagonists.
Besides, The main thing remains the image that is built of oneself, too much accommodations make the foundations of this image too fragilethey could crumble at the first gust of wind. The only way to make this construction really solid, made to face the storms, is not to seek excuse for an action which is not entirely that which was expected and which could even be questionable.
Very young, children know that they did not act as it should have, except those who blocked in a desire for all power: he distorts all their reactions and above all, he makes them blind, deaf and the Deprived of any capacity for judgment, otherwise they would not support this devaluing image that they give themselves, while, precisely, they think they preserve this image of power by insane behavior. Those who are more ripe, lucid and realistic, quickly understood that it was necessary to exceed, without even stopping there, the temptation to believe themselves with absolute powerwhile they don’t even know how to lace their shoes when they are faced with these evil interlacing. Howling by rolling on the ground seems degrading to them.
It is very preferable to behave in order to look like the image of an attentive and serious child, already participating in the smooth running of the house: they are small, weak, their ignorance is unfathomable, but they know how to be present and They integrate a staggering sum of knowledge thanks to this open attitude. They savor the image that is sent to them, there is no false note: the construction will be solid.
All the characteristics of gifted children combine so that this fidelity to oneself is an essential element of their personalitythere should not be any contradiction within themselves, this harmony is essential to them, as if it participated in the development of a roadmap which will then guide them for a long time. Thus, it would be impossible for them to be part of a pack of stalkers, they would rather tend to defend the harassed, but it is sometimes they who are in this place without understanding how they were taken in this infernal trap.
It is only at the very last end that they allow themselves a lie, sometimes so as not to betray a friend. They are generous, altruistic, attentive, even if they are also passionate and impatient; In fact, they could not act differently. They would not stand to surprise themselves in the image of a selfish, centered on his person or a whining finding those responsible for his misfortune everywhere to clear their reprehensible conduct.
For gifted children and adults they become, the main thing remains to always be in accordance with yourself, the false note of a disagreement may seem unbearable and almost painful to them. This agreement is essential: gifted children come up against so much misunderstanding, their reactions, their words and their way of seeing and understanding the world around them are so often misinterpreted that they must avoid dissonance in them -Mell, they must resist the soft temptation to look like everyone, they would not recognize each other and they would recognize themselves less in the image that we would see them again.
It would be like a distorting mirror where one recognizes, despite everything, something of oneself, thanks to a distant resemblance or to a few traits that have become vague, but so transformed that they would almost look like a caricature. It is therefore only by being careful not to betray his personality with his impulses, his tastes and his preferences that they can develop a personality reflecting them as exactly as possible. The words that define gifted people: harmony, consistency, apply here in all their dimensions.
When someone has accomplished an action of brilliance, because she was vital in certain circumstances, he hears herself repeating that he could not do otherwise, he acted with speed, safe and intelligence in the second, when It is a rescue for example, but no doubt he would then have reproached his whole life his inaction if he had not reacted in this way. A skipper who turns away from the road leading him to an assured victory and puts himself in danger to save a rival and friend in distress is a perfect example of this coherence. Victorious because he would have remained deaf and blind, he would have supported his life during the weight of his selfish cowardice.
Spinoza wrote in theEthics :: “Happiness consists for man who can keep his being”if you want, you can see confirmation of the importance of this loyalty to oneself. Sometimes the entourage strives to dissuade the one who wants to remain faithful to this principle: he risks putting himself in danger, to lose too much time, to miss opportunities that will not happen again, to crumble or to irritate People it is better to spare, there are always a thousand reasons to shirk with the best conscience in the world.
This self -loyalty is demanding, but it constitutes a fundamental characteristic of gifted people
Advice : Generosity and attention to others are appreciable qualities, we must be careful not to encourage the tendency to a certain rigidity which would not allow the most tiny of the shortcomings to the detriment of the construction of the personality and sometimes of the Avenir when the requirement requires excessive sacrifices which can be useless as demonstrated by the following events. We must also remain critical and insightful to defend ourselves against those who consider this fidelity as a weakness to be exploited without scruples.