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Are you often told that you spend a lot of time with your lover? Be careful because, according to a psychologist, this could be harmful for the good of your relationship as well as for yourself!
When you’re in love, you usually want to be with your partner all the time. But is that really a good habit? Dr. Aaron Ben-Zeév tells the magazine Psychology Today that this behavior when excessive could actually deeply affect your relationship on certain points. Indeed, maintaining a balance within your couple would be more important than you think! Find out why this can be a problem.
Too much proximity? Beware of routine!
The first risk you run by spending too much time with your partner is letting a routine set in your relationship. And as you know, while it can be a sign of stability, routine carries a long-term risk of seeing passion deteriorate… which can jeopardize your relationship! So to avoid monotony setting in and creating unnecessary tension, make sure to keep some time just for you.
Having your own life: the rule of a lasting relationship
As you will have understood, this is a rule that is sometimes neglected but essential for the development of a couple. Having your own space allows you to express yourself outside of your household and avoid a possible feeling of frustration. Loving yourself before loving others, that is the motto! So according to Dr. Aaron Ben-Zeév, loving others also means taking time for yourself, relaxing, seeing your friends and developing new passions. In addition to building your identity, giving yourself breaks without your partner will avoid the risk of emotional exhaustion.
Another positive aspect of taking time for yourself? You create the lack. And what better way to rekindle the flame than this feeling! You will be eager to see your partner again to tell them everything. So don’t be afraid to plan a weekend with your friends, without your partner. It’s a great way to make your relationship last in the long term.
Beware of dependence on others!
Beyond routine and loss of identity, Dr. Ben Zeév also warns of the risks of dependency in overly close relationships. Indeed, being constantly with your partner can generate a feeling of loneliness and dependency in you. In this type of case, your relationship turns into a refuge which can lead to a toxic relationship. In the long run, excessive behaviors can appear, such as possessiveness which endangers the balance of the couple.
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