The challenges – and how to handle them • Then it turned for Julia and Bingo
Diagnoses can make it in love relationships – not least when both have the same diagnosis.
A year ago, Julia Franzén and her partner went almost different ways – then they learned the strategies to keep the relationship.
– Now I would almost call ourselves relationship experts, it’s actually really cool, says Julia Franzén in News Morning.
ADHD can be a challenge in a love relationship – especially when both have the same diagnosis. For the influencer and television profile Julia Franzén and her partner Bingo Rimér, impulsivity sometimes put their relationship to the test.
– It is actually very nice in many ways to be with one that is so similar to me. But it is also challenging, of course, especially with keeping a quiet communication in trouble as it gets very hot, she says.
A recurring problem has been their strong need to get their point, which sometimes led to harsh words in affect. At the same time, she sees several distributing in sharing a diagnosis.
– What is good is the understanding of spontaneity, all impulsive that you come up with and that it never gets boring.
Almost ended – then it turned
She describes how a year ago they almost went different paths because they had difficulty listening to each other and receiving criticism. But after intensive relationship courses and couples therapy, the tools that made communication calm.
– Couple therapy I think is extra good for people with ADHD to talk to the point and you learn to listen. We have received lots of good tips and it is much calmer now, says Julia Franzén.
Among other things, they have learned to present and receive criticism without directing charges – and when the noise becomes too hot, they use a “break word” to break the discussion.
– We say break and then you have to leave and breathe for 20 minutes and then come back, she says.
The psychologist
Psychologist Anna Bennich confirms that ADHD in a couple relationship can lead to extra challenges. At the same time, she points out that an increased mutual understanding can arise if both are aware of the diagnoses.
– Common obstacles are that it can be difficult with emotion settlement, impulse control, to stay focused and actively listen. It can also be a little messy with planning in everyday life and to get on time.
At the same time, she believes that strategies and knowledge can strengthen the relationship and provide a stable and secure relationship.
– By learning strategies, you can learn how to handle the challenges you face, she says.