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Captivated by the Christmas romances that flash across our screens, have you also met a soul mate with whom to drink hot chocolate and enjoy the Christmas festivities during this sweet time? Be careful though of the “snowmancing” effect, a romance that might not survive the season.
Christmas romance is everywhere: on our screens, in films, in many seasonal literary releases… A cozy genre that pleases and which represents an ideal for certain people: what could be better than finding the person with whom to enjoy a fireplace, drinking chocolate or mulled wine, admiring the illuminations… Romantic, isn’t it? Unless it’s just a matter of sticking to a cliché. The return to reality can then be sudden, if you are only a fan of “snowmancing”.
What is “Snowmancing”?
“Snowmancing,” which combines the words “Snow” and “Romancing,” is a trend that involves immersing yourself in seasonal romance by embracing the holiday spirit. Whether it’s fireside chats, ice skating or strolling through Christmas markets, it’s about experiencing those perfect, magical moments found in romantic comedies. But be careful, every romantic comedy has its end credits. And once the holiday season is over, beware of the return of real life.
What are the signs that reveal “Snowmancing”?
If your love life looks like your favorite Christmas movie, maybe you can ask yourself this question. Other signs to watch out for, according to the site seeking.com, to know if it’s a festive affair.
- If the relationship heats up during the winter, but seems to cool down as soon as the warmer weather arrives;
- If your connection seems intense and rather quick, like you want to build intimacy quickly for the holidays;
- If the gestures are intended to be romantic, if the gifts are exchanged too quickly…
I am a victim of snowmancing, is it serious?
In itself, no. Spending some quality holiday time with a partner who loves the holiday just as much isn’t what you’d call a toxic relationship, and no one here really wants to harm the other.
On the other hand, if you are really looking for love, and a lasting partner, this “blindness” could well play tricks on you. Reality is often far from these idealized scenarios and the rapid intensity of the bonds that form during the end-of-year holidays can lead to rapid exhaustion… Two reasons that can keep you away from a real connection, built over time and transparency. The time will undoubtedly come (in January) to ask yourself: “is this a passing affair or a real encounter”?
“Ask yourself: This relationship makes me feel good and excited about the future? Or are you taking things one day at a time? A lack of vision and plans for the future? “Future may indicate that you are a Snowmancer” concludes Emma Hathorn, dating expert for Seeking.com.
In this case, this relationship could well melt quickly, like snow in spring.
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