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Amélie Boukhobza (Clinical psychologist)
Oystering is the new love practice adopted by many single people. Curious to test? We tell you more in this article.
After several years spent as a couple, regaining freedom can seem difficult. Luckily, a new dating trend called “oystering” is allowing singles to fully embrace their new status and take back control of their love lives.
What is oystering?
Oystering is the act of opening yourself up to dating after a breakup. According to the Collins English Dictionarythe expression “the world is your oyster” (“the world is your oyster”) also means that the world belongs to you.
Once you’re single, it’s not about withdrawing into yourself like an oyster. On the contrary, the idea is to increase the number of appointments or take advantage of this free time to take care of yourself.
During this period, “You are ready to learn, explore and have fun anytime, anywhere and with whoever you want”confirms Lisa Holmgren, romantic relationship counselor, in the columns of the media Shape.
The dating app Badoo estimates that almost half of new singles (46%) are eager to meet new people.
“Dating can be intimidating after a breakup, but it doesn’t have to be. Ultimately, dating should be fun, and what better way to get over a breakup than to have fun?”reveals Sophie Mann, dating expert, to our colleagues at GlamourUK.
Oystering is therefore a profoundly positive and future-oriented “mantra”: celibacy is no longer necessarily “endured”, it is also a revealing period, rich in discoveries (of oneself and others).
“Once your relationship is over, you now have the opportunity to derive more satisfaction and pleasure from life. It’s like starting from scratch, with better prospects”assures Lisa Holmgren.
What does our expert psychologist think of this new love practice?
Oystering is a trend that completely transforms disruption.
“No more melancholy, the breakup becomes an opportunity to meet! After a separation, many need to refocus, but others choose to dive back into the dating experience, in a more liberated and uninhibited way. The idea is to consider that the whole world becomes your “oyster” – a vast sea of possibilities, where everyone allows themselves to explore without pressure“, recognizes Amélie Boukhobza.
Adopting oystering is ultimately giving yourself permission.”to get out of your comfort zone, test experiences, reconnect with your own desires, and above all, understand that the breakup is not an end, but a new chapter“, details the practitioner.
“We embark on the meeting as we would taste a new dish, without specific expectations, just for the pleasure of discovering. At his leisure, at his own pace and according to his own terms. There is no question here of rushing towards a new serious relationship, but of enjoying the present moment, accepting lightness and exploring with curiosity. she concludes.
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