In sexual intercourse, people thinking only of themselves and ignoring the expectations of the other party can cause various problems. Sex therapists develop simple methods to address these problems. There are small steps to be taken to save the monotony in sexual intercourse and to double the pleasure. Experts suggest that putting some conscious effort into your passion can help you connect on a deeper level, both inside and outside the bedroom.
MAKE TIME TOGETHER
Green says that when couples have a hard time connecting physically, this can help to deliberately block time for intimacy. “Plan this with your calendars if needed,” she tells Best Life. “This creates an orderly environment to be together for a long time,” explains Green. “Make sure you’re not under pressure to do anything, but leave everything open enough to let it happen. As you do this, start incorporating more intimacy into your daily routine. Even if you have a busy schedule, be quick and creative. Having sex or using toys is an intimacy.” There may be ways.”
CLEARLY INDICATE YOUR DESIREES
Sometimes there’s an unspoken reason why your sex life has cooled off, so Green also recommends opening up space to communicate more openly with your partner. It can also open the door to a more flirtatious discussion of desires that you would like to explore together.
TALK ABOUT YOUR DREAMS IN OPEN COMMUNICATION
“Open communication is essential to spice up your sex life,” says Green. “Being afraid to open up about your sexual desires because of embarrassment or fear of being judged will get you nowhere. Make sure you try to have an open dialogue with your partner so you both feel more connected. Being able to communicate in a safe environment can lead to a more satisfying intimacy.” She says the key is to listen to and respect each other’s boundaries while also looking for creative ways to please everyone. “If something is out of the question, is there a compromise that might help?” submit your offer.
INNOVATION MORE
If your relationship has been bogged down by the real stress of the past few years, you’re not alone. A recent meta-analysis of 21 studies found that the pandemic had led to “higher rates of sexual dysfunction and decreased sexual activity” over the past few years.
Green says the best antidote to this is to step outside of your comfort zone to try things you’re interested in but are too shy to want. “Try something new, like trying a new position, introducing toys, or exploring different types of intimacy like oral sex,” she says. “Introducing innovation can add excitement and diversity to your intimacy, helping to rekindle the spark, and also encourage exploration and growth.” Green adds that “trying out tantric sex, role-playing or fantasy can both help you feel more connected and encourage you to try new things together.”
EXPERIENCES OUTSIDE THE BEDROOM
This sense of novelty can also benefit your sex life outside of the bedroom – especially if you choose an activity that will help you break down your barriers comfortably.
In particular, Green recommends attending a workshop or class that pushes you to explore your close relationship. “Searching for new experiences has helped many of my clients feel more connected and has brought a sense of novelty and excitement to their sex lives. It can be a great way to learn more about what you enjoy or an outlet to express yourself together.
EXPLORE YOUR SENSES
Finally, Green suggests exploring each of your five senses (touch, hearing, sight, smell, and taste) as a way to bring a spark to your foreplay. “It can be as simple as eating or massaging your partner,” she says. Not sure where to start? Choose one sense to focus and be creative. For example, try the sensations of hot and cold using ice or candles. Discover different scents with candles or incense.
“Being courageous and being able to express your desires in new ways is a great way to feel connected. You can also focus on the senses by using sensory deprivation to increase your awareness and enjoyment,” says Green.