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Do you want to raise children with great self-confidence to face life? A parent educator shares these 3 details that she observes in parents who naturally transmit this quality. 3 habits to adopt in yourself too.
A fulfilling social life, a satisfying professional situation, a rich personal life… Many aspects of life are based on good self-confidence and boosted self-esteem. Hence the importance of teaching our children early on how to have confidence in themselves and no longer doubt. You don’t know how to proceed? Therapist and parent educator Judy Helm Wright provides three keys to making your children stronger and developing their confidence, in the magazine Your Tango. Here are 3 habits of parents who know how to boost children’s self-esteem.
They invite them to think for themselves
Be careful, if you continually tell your children what to do and how to do it, they will not learn to trust their intuition.For every situation, there are at least 5 different and correct solutions. If we always want things to be “our way,” our children will stop trying to find creative solutions.” “By getting into the habit of giving children the ability to solve problems on their own (even if they make mistakes), we give them the opportunity to develop general skills in interpersonal communication, teamwork and cooperation.
They give them roots
Much of our identity comes from family stories, values and norms that make us who we are. Unlike animals, we are a species that tells and operates with stories. “We can memorize, process and pass on information to the next generation. We all crave belonging to a “tribe” that loves and accepts us.” explains the therapist. In fact, to be strong and confident in life, it is necessary to give roots to our children, that is, to share our heritage, our history and our cultural context with our children. “We give them roots… and wings” supports the expert.
They teach good posture
Did you know? The way you stand also influences your confidence. According to a study from Rush University in Chicago, good posture can impact our emotions and improve productivity and confidence.
So, people with slumped shoulders and lethargic movements show a lack of self-confidence. Slouching people indicate that they are not enthusiastic about what they are doing and that they do not consider themselves important. On the contrary, good posture affects your mind and your image in front of others. By practicing good posture, you will automatically feel more confident.
The right posture for you and your children? “Stand up straight, keep your head up and make eye contact. You will make a positive impression on others and you will instantly feel more alert and more autonomous” says the expert. Parents who raise confident children know that body and mind are never far away.