According to a parenting expert, many parents adopt this educational method without knowing that it can harm the relationship between them and their child.
We can’t say it enough, but being a parent is not innate, at least there are no instructions provided at the time of the birth of a child. So it happens that parents make mistakes without meaning to, especially when it comes to the education of their offspring. You will tell us, this is quite normal and indeed, there are common and sometimes trivial errors that are made. But there are others, which one does not suspect, which can have more or less repercussions on the child, as well as on his relationship with his father or mother. This is the case of one of them, which some parenting experts are used to observing in families: the fact of wanting to be a good friend to their child.
At first glance, establishing a good relationship with your little one is nothing dramatic. Most parents want to give the best to their child and for some, this means being the confidant, the person with whom the child will laugh about everything, on whom he can count, or who will accept all his requests. But looking closer, “the parental role is not to be the playmate of your child, but rather to be his guide and his educator”underlines parental coach Noémie de Saint-Sernin in one of her videos on her professional Instagram account.
According to this specialist, parents often make this mistake because of the education they received when they were younger. In a sense, they do not want to reproduce the same models they suffered: “for not being close enough” from their child, to maintain a distance, and to have “education perhaps too rigid, too strict, too violent sometimes”. However, we must keep in mind that adults have, as parents, a responsibility, “a responsibility to educate, to transmit values to them and to prepare them to face the world”, declares Noémie de Saint-Sernin. Clearly, it is important to maintain your role of parental authority over your child, without overdoing it. This does not mean, however, that a mother or father cannot have a bond with their child, on the contrary, it is also necessary.