Your teenager is about to pass the baccalaureate. The concern? He does not revise or very little and you are distraught. Do not panic, education professionals give you their advice.
Only a few weeks before the famous baccalaureate events. Your teenager should therefore revise at full speed! Unfortunately, this is not his case! How to motivate it to revise? How to help him maximize his chances of getting a good Bac result ? How to react if he doesn’t want to get to work? Testimonials from parents and advice from Isabelle Dumas, educational expert for the tutoring site Teenage lesson and Linda Lacorde, guidance counselor and psychologist.
What to do if my teenager no longer revises?
“”My child is one month of exams and no longer wants to revise their courses. I would like to know how to bring my child to have the love of work?“Francis
“”The love of work comes with motivation, therefore make a full point with him on what he would like to undertake and in the meantime help him on his revisions by first starting the easiest points. Do not put too much pressure on him, he may be stressed without showing him directly … Generally these techniques allow him to regain self-confidence and the motivation will come back “, explains the educational advisor. If he doubts a lot about him, you can intervene by discussing With one of his teachers in high school, but also a professional of orientation at the Information and Orientation Center (CIO). If you have fears about success in the bac, it is important to reassure it by specifying that there is different possibilities to bounce back ! And then if he cannot have his baccalaureate, he does not must not dramatize : There are also other possible solutions (repetition, other bac …). Above all, it is very important that the teenager knows that he is not alone because, in the opposite case, this could be taken as indifference. “”Parents must show that they are involved. They can go to their child asking him if all is well, how he feels, if he needs help … but it can also come from the teenager. The parents’ position is assimilated to accompanied driving!“, Illustrates Linda Lacorde.
What to do if my teen does not revise?
“”I am very worried because my son does not revise for his French trials. He is in 1st s but does nothing in class !! I tried to take private lessons, but he does not listen to. What to do?“. Mounia11
“”If he has worked well so far, he will have no difficulty in successful bac tests. Trust him: he knows what he does and if you constitute him to revise, he will do it badly, “says Isabelle Dumas. Even if you are very anxious at the idea that he does not revise, you have to know how to leave freedom to children. The limits are necessary, but The latter need to blow from time to time. This is why, it is essential to dialogue and ask him how he envisages his revisions, if he is stressed. Rather help him find the right methodology, accompany him in the organization of his revisions, in the production of his files or in the correction of his annals. In any case, it is important to let the adolescent be autonomous and not use his parents of parents, because the adolescent is particularly sensitive to the way he is told and which he is considered, adds the guidance counselor.
How to re -motivate it?
“”My daughter is 18 years old and spends her bac this year. She cannot motivate herself to revise while she is one month from the exam. I do not know how to help her because when she gets too late, she stresses the fact of not retaining what she learns (she has planted in white bac …). She should be more than motivated since she is accepted in prep in the school she wanted. I tell myself that in fact, for the moment, everything is so easy for her that she does not have the notion of effort and I do not know how to give it.“Gigidu17
“”Do not put too much stress, it is often negative, especially if it comes from the outside! Her acceptance in preparation class is a chance to make her work differently, you have to crisscross the subjects that will be studied next year, if you can with a particular teacher, used to having students revise to revise the year to come perfectly. It will allow her to gain height, she will only treat the bac tests better. Once the lessons are organized, let it do without imposing anything on it “, replies the expert.
| Parents: How to react the day before D -Day? Value it and emphasize the positive things that the teen has made during the year or simply on its strengths to go to the exam with the most optimistic mind possible. We often point the negative when it is possible to look at what is rewarding. Furthermore, do not require him to revise the day before: this could confuse him more than anything else. Let him see his friends in the afternoon, play the console or watch TV. Some teens need to find a cocoon to concentrate and let go. |