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Love is in the Meadow fans were able to witness the exchanges between Christophe and two of his suitors, Guillaume and Yann. After hesitating between the two for a long time, the farmer finally gave up on Guillaume, due to their age difference and the veto imposed by his children. How to explain it? Here are the answers from psychologist Amélie Boukhobza.
If you like “Love is in the meadow”one of the flagship shows of the M6 group, you were able to follow the relationship between Christophe, a 57-year-old winegrower and Guillaume, a 25-year-old young man. With Yann, Guillaume was one of the suitors for the farmer, but the latter finally gave up on the young man, despite obvious complicity.
A significant age difference and the intervention of his family
Two elements will decide Christophe to give up Guillaume: their age difference (they are 32 years apart) and the strong opinion of his family, in particular of his son Sylvain, who declared himself totally opposed to the relationship. . “Sylvain is a bit like the spokesperson for everyone around me, and my daughter was crying earlier. They can’t understand that I’m with someone 25 years old” explained Christophe during the show.
If the winemaker’s decision seems irrevocable, how can we explain it? Can the age difference really be a barrier in a relationship? And is the intervention of children legitimate? We asked psychologist Amélie Boukhobza the question. “The age difference in a couple, especially when it is marked, can bring out real discrepancies, even more so when one of the partners already has grown-up children. she says first of all.
“It is not only a question of generation: it is also a gap in pace of life, priorities and visions of the future. On the one hand, the parent has gone through the stages of parenthood, with all that that entails; on the other, the desire to start a family or live a life without children may still be very present.”
A feeling of rivalry and incomprehension
“For adult children, seeing their parent in a relationship with someone of their own generation can be confusing, if not downright complicated.” adds our expert. “This can arouse feelings of rivalry or misunderstanding. They sometimes perceive this relationship as a rupture of the stable and reassuring parental image that they had. Which can lead to tensions, even conflicts of loyalty, with everyone feeling destabilized by this unusual dynamic.”
According to Amélie Boukhobza, the whole order of parenthood and symbolism is being shaken up. “The family is based on a generation gap, which is shattered when one of the partners of the couple is almost the age of the children. Not to mention the incestual dimension that can sometimes emerge. Particularly in the eyes of children” she concludes.
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