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Before starting a new relationship, it is essential to put an end to the previous one. But with some personalities, it’s almost impossible. Here are the ones and how to go about putting a conclusion to your story.
Breaking up, whether in love or friendship, is never easy to deal with. However, it represents an essential step in moving forward and rebuilding your life. But it is sometimes difficult to turn the page of a finished story, with certain personalities. Which ones? Here they are.
Finishing a story well is as important as the story itself
Love stories don’t always end as we planned or imagined. The other’s reaction can leave us speechless, an argument can give a taste of unfinished business to the relationship… In short, not ending a relationship properly can make it difficult to turn the page and take control of your life. However, it is essential to be able to move forward.
What are the personalities that can leave us in a relationship unfinished?
According to therapist Susan Wolf, there are personalities who are incapable of properly ending a love affair. According to her, this would be linked to well-anchored defense mechanisms but also habits, which mean that the other will leave you without a real end point to the relationship. These are people:
- Not having a complete understanding of their thoughts, behaviors and emotions;
- Who do not look towards themselves;
- Who are in perpetual avoidance;
- Who are not emotionally mature;
- Who never take responsibility and do not recognize their wrongs;
- Who are afraid of conflict and confrontation;
- Who are disconnected from themselves;
- Who can’t or won’t see their own pain and hurts.
By reading these lines you may recognize the personality of an ex-partner who left you “in the lurch”, without being able to explain to you why your affair ended. If you are able to overcome this, that’s great, but if you constantly question yourself and think about it, you can take action.
How ? When writing a letter, advises author Candis McDow, in an article for VeryWellMind. “It can even be a farewell letter, which allows you to say everything you haven’t been able to say. Whatever the type of letter, the important thing is that you express your emotions”.
Before concluding: “While not everyone is entitled to closure, fortunately there are some strategies that can help bring relief and peace as we come to terms with the end of a relationship and begin to move forward in life.”
Slide: The keys to getting over a breakup