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Amélie Boukhobza (Clinical Psychologist)
Before discovering infidelity, some people have a sixth sense or a kind of instinct that pushes them to pay closer attention to their partner’s behavior. One accessory in particular, installed on the smartphone, can give you a clue. Here’s which one.
When a person looks at their smartphone, whether on public transport or in any other public place, it is easy to see their screen and have access to what they are doing. To avoid curious glances, it is possible to install a screen protector. Could this purchase be linked to infidelity? Answer from our psychologist.
What is a screen protector and what is it used for?
A screen protector is an accessory that allows you to limit the view of your phone screen to those around you. A gadget that comes in the form of a film to apply directly to the screen of your phone. Thus, the person holding it in their hand sees what they are doing, but not the person standing next to them. Perfect for limiting curious glances!
Could this purchase be linked to infidelity?
If you notice that your other half has bought this rather unusual protective film, it is tempting to think that he or she has things to hide, including a potential infidelity. Before giving in to panic, the first thing to do is to discuss it by first asking him or her about the reason why he or she bought this gadget.
Look for other signs of infidelity
If the arguments put forward for purchasing this accessory do not suit you, you cannot wrongly accuse your partner of infidelity, as psychologist Amélie Boukhobza reminds us. “When you suspect infidelity, it is important not to act impulsively, because a hasty reaction could make the situation worse.” she recalls.
However, you should listen to your instincts and watch for other signs of infidelity, such as changes in communication, changes in habits, increased attention to appearance, secretive behavior, or a decrease in affection from your partner, with less interest in intimacy or sexual relations.
If the signals are red, our expert recommends taking your time before talking to your partner. For her, you must first:
- Take time to think and evaluate your feelings.Emotions can be very intense at these times, and reacting too impulsively could make the situation even worse.” ;
- Ask yourself some important questions.”Are my suspicions based on concrete facts or on impressions? “, “Where do these suspicions come from?”;
- Only then approach the subject with your partner. “We don’t keep things inside ourselves. Talking about them helps to clarify the situation and avoid going round in circles in our thoughts.”.
To discuss possible infidelity with your partner, Amélie Boukhobza recommends following these tips.
- Choose the right time, that is, a quiet moment when you can talk without being interrupted;
- Remain calm and composed, approaching the subject in a peaceful manner, without aggressive accusation;
- Express your feelings, by saying your doubts, your worries, your fears, your troubles without accusing the other directly;
- Ask questions, asking your partner to explain certain situations or behaviors;
- Listen carefully, giving your partner the opportunity to express themselves and answer questions. You also listen carefully to see if the explanations dispel doubts or if they generate more confusion;
- Re-evaluate the relationship if suspicions persist despite discussion as it may be helpful to reconsider its dynamics.Sometimes suspicions of infidelity can be a symptom of other underlying problems in the relationship.” recalls Amélie Boukhobza.
Finally, “Consulting a professional can also be useful in these cases, in order to clarify the situation and perhaps obtain advice adapted to the situation” she concludes.
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