There are certain behaviors that can tell you that a person is not trustworthy. Be observant, it will help you in your relationships.
Trust is the foundation of relationships. Without it, it’s hard to build healthy, lasting relationships or even feel comfortable. However, you shouldn’t give your trust too quickly, because some people are capable of abusing it or are simply not worthy of it. How can you spot them? Certain behaviors can guide you.
1. Frequently dodging questions. When someone is trying to hide something from you, they often beat around the bush to avoid really answering. These people then compensate by giving quantity. The information is often vague and the story can gradually change.
2. Speak without hesitation. People who are honest can pause in their speech, think about what they are saying. Conversely, a person who is not honest tends to follow a script, as if the text proclaimed was prepared in advance, giving the false impression of responding without hesitation. A study published in Applied Psycholinguistics also reveals that the “uh”, a sign of hesitation, is less often pronounced when someone is lying than when they are telling the truth.
3. Telling secrets about others. An untrustworthy person is often empty-mouthed and doesn’t keep secrets. If you realize that they tell you everything about other people’s private lives, why wouldn’t they do the same with yours? This is a good indicator of a dishonest person. Conversely, they won’t tell you much about their personal life. Since they have no qualms about breaking their word, they assume that others will do the same.
4. Don’t act guilty. If she does something wrong, she won’t feel guilty. She won’t express regret or ask for forgiveness. To err is human, but you have to recognize it and respond accordingly. This gives the impression that the person is in a constant need to be right or to play the victim. “Even if they hurt you, they can create their own narrative and not listen to you or ignore what you say,” says psychotherapist Susan Zinn, for Well + good.
5. Getting angry quickly. Someone who gets angry very quickly and over minor issues or who easily resorts to aggression may be hiding an underlying instability. It can also show that he is not comfortable in his speech and therefore not completely honest with you.
It is also often advisable to trust your instincts. It can be a good indicator according to Gretchen Kubacky, psychologist, with Bustle. If you find yourself in such a situation, you have several options depending on the relationship you have with this person: have a clear conversation with them to share your feelings, remain on your guard or end the relationship.