Are you no longer happy at work? Do you feel a sense of emptiness? Do you have arguments with your spouse? It may be time to question yourself.
Se question is not not always easy but this process of examining our ways of thinking, our beliefs and our actions is life-saving. Questioning helps to grow and evolve as individuals. She allows to get out of your comfort zone and to rethink their patterns and preconceived ideas. Questioning yourself also allows you to get to know each other better and be more in tune with their values. Advice from Noémie Le Menn, psychologist, to get there in a healthy and constructive way.
Ask the right questions
“Questioning yourself is a cognitive reassessment process which consists of asking questions. It is a way of reflecting on one’s way of thinking, acting, feeling and to question oneself on the interest or not of changing“ says the psychologist. We can ask ourselves, for example:
- Do my personal relationships are healthy and nurturing ?
- Is it that Am I surrounding myself with positive people? Do I feel respected and valued in my interactions with others?
- Am I open to communication and conflict resolution in a healthy way?
- What makes me “vibrate”? In which activities and in which contexts do I not see the time passing?
Do it at the right time
Questioning yourself is positive, but you shouldn’t do it all the time and not at any time, otherwise you risk constantly questioning yourself and never being satisfied with what you have. The right time to question yourself is for example “whether I no longer thrive in my workthat I view the future negatively, that I no longer enjoy working or spending time with those around me, that I do nightmares, anxiety attacks“explains the psychologist.
Do not belittle yourself
“Questioning is absolutely not no self-flagellation. It’s no use to blaming or humiliating oneself is even counterproductive. For that, we avoid being devalued by deleting sentences such as “I suck, I’m stupid, I missed”. You have to relearn how to talk to each other with respect, as if you were talking to your child or your best friend.” proposes Noémie Le Menn.
Don’t be afraid of change
“Questioning yourself involves a scary change but it is necessary to underline the fact that we are not talking about a change of personality, the questioning will not transform you completely but improve yourself and make you evolve positively” encourages our interlocutor.
Don’t overdo the questions
“It’s important to do things gradually, not to question everything but some points step by step. We must see the personality as a house with walls, some of which are carriers. These do not see themselves being suddenly shaken, we take the time and we do not upset the “foundations” of the person” warns the psychologist.