Six years after divorcing her ex-husband, Emilie ended up helping him. She explains to us the reasons that pushed her to reach out to him.
Émilie married Pierre ten years ago, with whom she had three children. But after six years of marriage, the couple separated. “I no longer trusted him, he tended to lie to me regularly about lots of little details. And although he was faithful, the lie made me doubt all the time.”tells us the young woman, now 42 years old. The ex-spouses have still managed to maintain good relations for the well-being of the children, who are in alternating residence, one week with dad and one week with mom. Everything was going well until her ex-husband approached her for financial help. “Despite our differences, I decided to put aside my resentment, for good reason, and I had no choice“, assumes the young woman.
Of course, before giving him support, Émilie looked for other solutions: can’t Pierre’s parents help him, his own entourage, his brothers and sisters, his friends? Can’t he get credit to repay what he owes?… It turns out that Pierre regularly asks them for money, and that he already has many debts to them. On the aid side, he is registered with the Bank of France and of course cannot borrow anything. Also, if he turns to his ex-wife, it is quite simply because he is on the verge of collapse with almost six months of late rent, the impossibility of paying his daily bills or doing his homework. races. “I know that this will not be enough for him, but he remains the father of my children, and I could not know them without heating for the winter, without hot water…” The young woman therefore decides to pay the essential bills, including her fines which risk being increased.
A relief for this father, who did not broach the subject with his children. And when the Internet doesn’t work or there’s a water cut at home, he puts the blame on “the service providers who don’t do their job”, so that the children see nothing but fire. A way to protect them from all this financial stress.
Émilie, for her part, hopes that her ex-husband will manage to resolve the situation as quickly as possible, and that he will be able to better manage his expenses. “We’re still not finished, because to repay everything (nearly 35,000 euros), he will have to tighten his belt for several more years.” she declares. What matters above all is the well-being of his children and their father.