How to avoid arguments with your partner on holiday

It is common for there to be some arguing in the couple’s relationship even on holiday, notes psychologist Anna Bennich. Deviations from routines can generate more fuss when high expectations come crashing down.

– Many people get time to think more clearly about the relationship, which we don’t always have time for in our rather full-on weekdays, where we don’t need to see each other very much, she says.

A common thing to argue about on vacation is how the time should be spent. Therefore, it is good to talk to each other about expectations, hopes and what you want. But Anna Bennich also believes that it is important to be able to compromise with each other.

– It doesn’t work well in the duality of just running your own race. If you do it anyway, you have misunderstood what a healthy love relationship is. It can never be just one’s agenda that rules.

Money in focus

In general, couples often argue about money, so also in the summer. There can be several reasons, for example that you have different views on how you want to spend your money, or that you simply have different conditions.

– If you don’t have a particularly stable economy, summer and holidays can be stressful. There are more meals to be eaten together, can you eat at home or not? Should you travel and do things? says Anna Bennich and continues:

– Most things cost money when we move. If we’re stressed about the finances, it’s no wonder it becomes a source of hassle on the holidays. Not least because we can also compare ourselves to what “everyone else” is doing with social media.

Embrace differences

Our differences in relationships are also brought to a head when we are free together for a long time, says Anna Bennich. One person might get energy from being with other people a lot, while the other needs to be more to themselves and prioritize alone time.

– A good tip is to think about how we as a couple should be as recovered as possible when we start working again. For example, we don’t have to do everything together just because we are together.