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Amélie Boukhobza (Clinical Psychologist)
Can’t stand your coworker, cousin or spouse anymore? It’s very likely that he or she has one of these three character traits. Explanations.
Rightly or wrongly, some people particularly irritate us. However, while the “annoying” nature of an individual may be difficult to explain at first glance, there are nevertheless some traits that are generally recognized as being unbearable to everyone.
3 behaviors are particularly annoying
In the columns of Mediumclinical psychologist Karen Nimmo asks, “Are you constantly in the negative? Are you critical? Do you often find yourself saying, ‘Yes… BUT’?” If you answered yes to these questions, you may be prone to seeing life in a negative light.
“You may call yourself a pragmatist or a realist, but it’s exhausting to be around someone who always sees the bad side of things. Maybe it’s time to cut back on your corn quota?” she says.
For Amélie Boukhobza, the same observation: these 3 behaviors make individuals particularly annoying. They are:
- From the negativity chronic. “That is, people who constantly see the bad side of things and complain without offering solutions.“.
- From the feeling of superiority“Those who think they are better than others, who refuse to accept no and do not let others express themselves“.
- Unreliability.“Those who lie, arrive late or cancel frequently, lacking honesty and respect for others”.
“These traits do indeed create tense and unpleasant interactions, but can be improved through awareness and self-work. They are often a reflection of deeper issues, such as insecurity or the need for control. It is therefore necessary to consider their possible origins,” says the psychologist.
To these three behaviors, the expert adds a fourth: the lack of listening.
“These people constantly interrupt and show no interest in what others are saying. This attitude prevents effective communication and creates frustrations,” confirms the specialist.
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Good news: according to Amélie Boukhobza, these behaviors can be modified with conscious effort and the help of a professional.
“While working at development of empathy and by taking the time to reflect on one’s own behaviors and the reactions they provoke in others, relationships will be better for it.“, she assures, in conclusion.
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