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Asking your partner why he or she loves you often indicates a slight lack of self-confidence. In this case, here’s how to answer without panicking.
“But you, why do you love me? ” Alert! The question that comes out of nowhere seems like a trap. And although you sincerely love your partner, you fear giving an answer that will not live up to the question. The media dedicated to relationships Your Tango has deciphered this question and tells you what you need to know to best answer it.
The real reason behind this unexpected question
Before you panic, you should know that this question often comes up in two cases: either the person does not feel safe in your relationship (but you would know it), or (and this is the most frequent) they have a lack of self-confidence which reflects on you.People asking this question may be struggling to love themselves, in general or in the moment, and they are looking to you—the person they trust, love, and appreciate above all else—for confirmation that they are worthy of love and that they are, indeed, lovable.” confirms the article. Seen in this way, the question immediately seems more innocent.
According to the media, there would therefore be a good way to respond to your partner, waiting for trust. It would be to look at the person you love, hug them and assure them that they are not alone, and can count on you. Of course, the rapprochement can also be accompanied by sincere sentences that you feel:
- Talk about the emotional connection you share, how he/she makes you feel, and what he/she does when he/she makes you feel that way.
- Bring up specific traits, qualities, or characteristics that your partner possesses that you admire, such as kindness, confidence, strength, resilience, humor, beauty, loyalty, and intelligence.
- Talk about what your relationship has added to your life: pleasure, passion, happiness, support, comfort, and growth…. The choices are vast.
On the other hand, avoid always joking about this question and offering a sarcastic answer. Your partner’s lack of confidence could suffer further.
12 phrases to strengthen your relationship
Your Tango goes even further, for those who find themselves disoriented and lacking inspiration: 12 phrases that can improve your relationship:
- “I love you because you are you”;
- “I feel better when I’m with you”;
- “I like the way I feel when I’m with you”;
- “You accept me as I am. You let me be myself and I thank you for that”;
- “With you I feel more alive than anyone else”;
- “You make me want to be a better person”;
- “You teach me how to be a better partner. You encourage me, support me, and teach me how to support you better too”;
- “You complete me”;
- “I love you for your optimism. It’s contagious”;
- “You make me feel strong”;
- “I love your heart”;
- “You and I are just good together.”
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