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There is often a fine line between persuasion and manipulation. If you doubt the good intentions of a friend or spouse, listen to the way they express themselves. If you regularly find these ten sentences in her speech, be wary: it is possible that she is trying to manipulate you.
Some people manipulate others through the way they express themselves. And very often, if victims realize that something is wrong, they struggle to put their finger on what is really bothering them. If this is your case, here are the ten phrases regularly used by manipulation professionals.
You are always…
In the realm of manipulation, controlling the narrative is essential. Also, manipulative people will distort the comments made, in order to turn them to their advantage. Very often, this type of generality, starting with “You are always…” such as “You always overreact” or “You always make a big deal about it” leads you to question your reactions and your feelings, which which in turn allows them to control the conversation and avoid taking responsibility for their actions.
Trust me…
Manipulators have a way of gaining your trust, then using it against you. This expression is typically used to make you feel safe, implying that you are the bad person in the story if you don’t.
I’m only trying to help you…
Manipulative people often mask their attempts at control with this type of phrase. A roundabout way of imposing their will, while giving the impression that they are doing you a favor.
This type of sentence also makes us feel indebted to this person, who “helps” us so kindly…
Maybe you misunderstood…
Here again, this phrase is commonly used by manipulative people, in order to place the blame on the other and sow confusion in their mind. By suggesting that you have misunderstood, they are also insinuating that the fault is yours.
This can cause you to question your own understanding and perception, giving them the upper hand in the conversation. If you notice that someone around you often uses this phrase, particularly to avoid their responsibilities, be wary.
I don’t want to argue…
Manipulators often use the phrase “I don’t want to argue…” to shut down conversations or give the impression that they want to avoid conflict. But don’t be fooled. This is a clever way to avoid accountability and discussing issues that might expose their treacherous techniques.
You are too sensitive…
It’s a classic phrase that manipulative people use to minimize your feelings and take control of the conversation. By doing this, they reject your emotions. It’s a powerful way to make you doubt yourself and question your self-esteem. Remember that how you feel matters.
If you really cared about me…
This phrase is a powerful tool for making others feel guilty and controlling. It is generally used to get you to do something for the other person. Remember that meeting the needs of others is possible, but it should never be to the detriment of yourself.
I didn’t think so…
This phrase may seem like a genuine excuse at first glance, but manipulators often use it to avoid responsibility for their actions or words.
By saying “I didn’t mean it that way…”, they are essentially blaming you for misinterpreting their actions or words, rather than recognizing the impact of what they did or said.
It’s for your own good…
This phrase is a classic manipulation tool. It’s used to justify actions or decisions that are not in your best interest, but rather serve the person manipulating you.
By saying these words, they are implying that they know better than you what is best for you. This not only diminishes your ability to make decisions for yourself, but it also shifts the power dynamic in their favor.
Good in his body, good in his head!
You think too much…
This last phrase is one of the most effective tools in a manipulator’s arsenal. It makes you question your own judgment and perceptions, allowing them to take control. This can cause you to doubt yourself and trust their judgment over your own.
The most important thing to remember is this: your thoughts and feelings are valid. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise. Finally, trust your instincts and stay firm in your decisions.
Slide: 6 types of sentences spoken by toxic people