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To seduce a potential partner, creativity is required. With social networks, it is now possible to subtly captivate this person by posting beautiful selfies and photos of our outings. The goal? To attract their attention and develop a mutual attraction. Called “Gatsbying”, this method is not without risks for your ego.
When you’re trying to seduce someone in particular, it’s common to use different tactics on social networks to impress them, such as posting stories or photos showing yourself in the best light. In the jargon of the dating world, this technique is called “Gatsbying.” The term originates from the novel “The Great Gatsby” by F. Scott Fitzgerald, which features an enigmatic young millionaire who throws lavish and extravagant parties in order to attract the attention of Daisy, the woman he secretly loves. The term “Gatsbying” was coined by Matilda Dods, an Australian model, in a 2017 article in the columns of Tomboy Beauty.
Much like Jay Gatsby, these singles are desperate to impress their crush. The idea is to show how fabulous and fun their lives are. Everything is done: social events, makeup, gym sessions, and even subtle allusions to their crush’s favorite musicians or movies. The goal? To appear perfect and interesting to their potential conquest, in the hopes of sparking a conversation or developing a mutual attraction.
However, while this seduction technique may seem appealing at first, it is not without its risks. Success is not guaranteed: your post may go unnoticed or fail to elicit the desired response. Constantly seeking this external validation can also have a negative impact on your mental health and emotional well-being. You may feel frustrated that you are not able to get their attention, leading to a loss of self-confidence and a weakened ego.
As an article by Unbashed Emotions, Gatsbying often reflects deep insecurity and a reliance on the approval of others to feel valued.
In short, while Gatsbying may seem like an effective method to get the attention of someone you like, it is crucial to stay authentic and not neglect your own emotional well-being. Developing self-esteem independent of the opinions of others is essential to protecting your ego. If you have your eye on someone, take the first step by starting a conversation.
Slide: Gentlemen, you have 15 minutes to seduce a woman.