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Amélie Boukhobza (Clinical psychologist)
In the era of positivism and personal development, many people feel tired of this quest for a “better self”. 1 in 5 young people aged 18 to 34 no longer give importance to good resolutions, according to a study conducted by Bumble.
Do you need to constantly improve? Getting up early in the morning to do your yoga session? Replace your (old) favorite series with an inspiring podcast? No, believes the new generation. According to a study conducted by Bumble, young people are fed up with too much optimism and positivity.
What is Betterment Burnout, dating trend in 2024?
It is a mental exhaustion generated by this incessant quest for “self-improvement” advocated by the media, podcasts and other influential people.
However, if, according to the report, one in two French single people (51%) constantly feels pushed “to improve and improve” – one of the many consequences of personal development – two thirds of French women surveyed (66%) are committed, precisely, “to accept yourself fully“.
1 in 4 people (25%) would also choose to focus on joy rather than self-improvement and 1 in 5 young people aged 18 to 34 would no longer attach importance to “to good resolutions“.
Finally, 37% of French women say that they will now only go out with people “who won’t try to change them“.
Figures, which illustrate this growing weariness towards personal development, nicknamed the “better burnout“.
“Even today, many of us still feel post-lockdown fatigue from the relentless pressure to learn new skills, monetize side hustles, and manage multiple responsibilities ‘successfully’. it is associated with constant comparison on social networks, Betterment Burnout (improvement burnout) is inevitable. “The idealized virtual personas created by one’s peers and celebrities contribute to a personal sense of inadequacy, leading to the relentless pursuit of a ‘perfect self,'” he said. Dr. Caroline West, relationship and sex expert at Bumble, in a statement.
Good in his body, good in his head!
Recognize and accept your limits
While it would be better to eat healthy, sleep 9 hours, prepare homemade meals for your children or not miss a single pilates session, our psychologist expert believes that this trend around weariness… is rather healthy.
“It’s very interesting this exhaustion linked to constant personal improvement which has become almost a societal injunction today. Between social media, cultural influences and development coaches popping up like mushrooms, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed! Over time, we end up feeling inadequate and powerless in the face of often unrealistic ideals. Recognizing and accepting your limits, learning to know where your own balance lies between fulfillment and well-being is much more useful and enjoyable in my opinion!“, she assures.
Reason enough to return to the sofa… and savor this moment!