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Meeting of an evening or of a lifetime? According to a psychologist, there is one question in particular that can define your love compatibility. It’s up to you to ask it innocently to get an idea.
In search of your soul mate, you have several first dates, but the initial spark doesn’t really take hold? According to the American psychologist Robert J Maurer, there is, however, a very simple question that can put you on the path and identify compatibility… or not.
The question to ask on a date to find out if it will work
The psychology professor thinks that it is possible to quickly know the potential of a couple by going beyond physical attraction, by asking the question:
“Why are you single?” Or for those who would like to coat it a little more delicately: “Why is someone as exceptional as you still single?”
For what ? Because according to him, this simple question can reveal the deep character of a person on the way they manage their past and their ability to evolve as a couple. Which is, let’s face it, a good point to know quickly, which can save you time.
An answer that says a lot about the possible implication
The question posed in this way does not require a perfect answer (even if it is better to avoid listing all your past relationships on a first date!)
But depending on the answer given, it is possible, according to the psychologist, to see if the person you have in front of you is mature enough to have an adult romantic relationship. Because it allows us to see if the latter assumes, for example, a part of the responsibility for his romantic failures, if he (or she) has the impression of having shown selfishness in the past and having learned from his mistakes or if he (or she) knew how to forgive for example.
If your date takes responsibility, that’s a good sign. If he blames everyone else for his past failures, it’s best to leave it at that if you’re looking for a serious relationship.
On the other hand, it is better to know, the question will probably also be returned to you. So also question your own reaction to your past!
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