Concern for harmony guides gifted children

There are many situations in which the gifted child, like all others, will fall into irrational reactions, often provoked by sibling rivalries whose violence sometimes escapes reason. However, within a sibling, there can be one of the children, unaware of any rivalry, who will work, on the contrary, to appease these eternal and stupid conflicts.

When he is good at friendships, he ignores quarrels motivated precisely by jealousy., since it is a feeling that he ignores and will continue to ignore throughout his life, he does not want to take sides in confrontations that he considers ridiculous, even if it means sometimes ending up by staying away from these quarrels with the harmful consequences that this distance can have. This early acquired “wisdom” does not prevent him from living in a dramatically painful way a betrayal, or what seems to him such, on the part of a child who did not have the same absolute conception of friendship. For him, in this case, the harmony resided in their exchanges which he believed to be sincere. He sees this betrayal as a sign of disenchantment and he does not understand what caused it.

Such a child, when he finds himself in a friendly environment which recognizes his qualities and does not consider him an extraterrestrial, nevertheless occupies a special place: often he is elected class delegate, precisely because of his wisdom, his ability to understand adults, of his fluent verbal expression, and his propensity to seek common ground instead of pointing out. Later, if his qualities guide his choice, he cannot forget this concern for harmony, which takes on another dimension now that he is almost an adult. He has broadened his vision of the world and noted all the disorders that are breaking him down, the notion of order seems forgotten, the inhabitants of certain countries are caught in conflicts or tragedies which overtake them, they need help, otherwise they Are going to disappear. Without looking so far, he can see all kinds of troubles around him and he wonders how to remedy them. He is already thinking enough to imagine the multiple causes causing this chaos.

For a gifted person, the observation of this inconsistency and this disorder which now seem overwhelming is intolerable., but the gifted student still feels ill-equipped to act. he is keen to do the studies that interest him, they will be useful to him, whatever path he takes, it still remains fuzzy in his mind, but he needs weapons anyway to break through its path: studies provide some of these weapons, they ensure greater solidity, knowledge is often necessary, it allows to benefit from the knowledge of others and whose job it is to transmit it, to allow them to progress and can -being to go further in reflection than their teachers themselves after they have given them the impetus and taste for the subject taught.

This rejection of injustice, which prevents any harmony from being established, cannot disappear: just as the gifted child did not understand the betrayal of the one he thought was his friend, the gifted adult refuses to betray himself by accepting situations that upset him. If he thinks he can act, he looks for how to proceed, he puts all his qualities at the service of this company with the soothing feeling of feeling useful. All kinds of causes can be defended in this way: without going as far as unjust wars where it is generally not the noblest cause that will win, but it is this which has constituted an irrepressible appeal, the causes to be defended are multiple and do not always require such a total commitment as that where the risk of losing one’s life is real.

There is another risk, more treacherous and more devious: there will always be evil beings on the lookout, all ready to take advantage of this beautiful outpouring of generosity to lead the one they have managed to fool down tortuous paths. They take advantage of the qualities that they have seen well and which will be useful to them by showing a deceptive, but effective recognition, at least for a time. Tiny signs end up alerting the one who cannot be fooled for too long, but he will retain a bitterness that takes a long time to disappear.

We have seen talented people do wonders by showing themselves to be peerless organizers within a sect who had attracted them by fallacious pretexts, until the moment when they pulled themselves together to the chagrin of the guru who had known how to seduce them and did not did not want to lose such precious help, but we also see people close to burnout working within an NGO all that is more official where their qualities were exploited without measure. The desire to restore a battered order can sometimes lead to dramatically destructive dead ends. Causes, apparently noble, generous and justified, turn out to be manipulated by some who see it as a way to ensure their profits or their power, but it takes time for these underground manipulations to appear. As we can see, generosity, the need to help reestablish a disturbed order and that of restoring its coherence to the world risk being drawn into the traps set by individuals themselves subjected to dark ideals.

In a more conventional way, most gifted students embark on more classic and less dangerous paths: many fields of action are possible, all professions whose primary motivation is the search for this essential harmony may be suitable.. Wherever one seeks to restore disturbed order, effective intervention is welcome. It is most often a constant struggle to be waged with unfailing energy because it responds to an imperative which it is impossible to avoid when one has chosen this path. It would necessarily be reductive to mention all these areas that must be tirelessly put in order, whether they relate to the individual level or that of an entire society. If these vocations did not exist, or if they remained without echo, because too tiring, not very rewarding, not very profitable, preventing a regular and peaceful family life, the company would quickly be invaded by a chaos without name.