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Our loved ones are the people we love the most, but also those who are most likely to make us angry. How to deal with this feeling, when it is directed against a loved one? Here are seven ways to do it.
Friends, family or spouse: the people closest to us are also the people we are most likely to get angry with. Be careful because this emotion, which can be explosive, risks harming the relationships you have with these people. How to manage it? Here are seven ways to do it.
Communicate your feelings
Wait for the right moment to speak and don’t do it out of anger. But clearly saying how you feel to the person you’re angry with is legitimate. If it is a young child, you can also tell him that you still love him, to reassure him.
Don’t change your behavior
When you get angry, especially with your partner, you can refuse to prepare your meal or your coffee, for example. This is not a good thing. Instead, continue doing what you’re used to doing for this person. The opposite shows an immature side, which will only make the situation worse.
Express yourself… in writing
When we are angry with someone, a series of pet names immediately come to mind. But instead of shouting them at the person in front of you, it’s better to show self-control and use writing as an outlet afterwards.
You can write down everything you feel and let the anger come out, as well as the pain you feel. A good way to calm your mind… and your anger! You can also express yourself in writing and then give the letter to the person concerned: it is sometimes easier to make yourself understood when you take the time to write down what you feel.
Keep Conflict Private
The last thing to do when you get angry with a loved one is to shout it from the rooftops! It is important to keep certain things private. You will also avoid derogatory comments from certain people, who will not fail to criticize your loved one on this occasion.
Show kindness
Once the anger has subsided, you can reconnect the existing bond between you with a small gesture. This might be to sit next to him (or her), to spend the evening together, or to offer him a coffee. Do this without resentment or ulterior motives, but simply to show this person that you still care about them, despite everything.
Listen to what the other has to say to you
As the saying goes, there are always two versions of the same story. So your point of view is not the only perspective to consider in this situation. Ask the person you are angry with to discuss what happened.
Return to the conflict, remaining silent to truly listen to what the other person has to say to you, even if you see things differently.
Good in his body, good in his head!
Hold this person in your arms
This is perhaps the most difficult thing to do. And yet, if you can give this person a hug, don’t hesitate! It’s still the best way to make him understand that you love him.
And remember that anger is destructive and can ruin a relationship. So be careful what you say in the heat of the moment and how you handle things afterwards.
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