Since the birth of their second child, Coline and her partner have adopted a habit that may surprise you, and yet it has many advantages. Testimony.
Having a night just for yourself, in a big bed, without a child to wake you up and without noise. It’s the dream of almost all young parents. Because with the arrival of a baby, fathers and mothers often have to deal with short and restless nights. As a result, after several months, lack of sleep and fatigue build up, which also causes stress, arguments, and even a certain irritability in the couple. Coline, 27, and her partner went through this stage when they had their first child, Gabriel. For them, it was a big leap into the unknown. They opted for co-sleeping and like many parents, they learned on the job how to look after their baby. But when their second son, Nolan, arrived, the parents decided to take action to finally get some sleep and preserve their relationship.
“When I stopped breastfeeding with my second, we switched to bottles and for me, waking up in the middle of the night to feed him was more complicated. Knowing that our first still slept co-sleeping with us, it was no longer possible”, the young mother tells us. The idea of having a separate room then came to them, almost naturally. “We realized that it was important for our relationship and our well-being to sleep in separate rooms from time to time, during periods when one of us was more tired than the other,” Coline explains to us.
Coline and her partner therefore began to allow themselves nights alone, each on their own, sleeping either in the guest room or on the sofa in the living room. This practice, although unusual, has several advantages: “It avoids having to worry in the middle of the night about the children waking up. Wanting to say ‘it’s your turn, not yours’. It avoids getting upset, because he won’t hear the baby crying, for example. Or quite simply, to have a night without interruption”, underlines the mother in a Reel on her Instagram account, alias @coline.schl.
Since they implemented this routine, everyone has found what they are looking for. Both parents sleep much better, they argue less, and above all, it allows them to find each other again on the nights when they sleep in the same bed again. Coline also recommends this solution to all young parents who feel constantly exhausted.