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Contrary to popular belief, babies have childhood memories very early on. Gestures of tenderness, kindness and encouragement are just as decisive as the moments spent together.
You think that taking your child on a trip at 1 year old is pointless, because “he won’t remember?“Make no mistake. All our gestures, actions and words have an influence on his short and long term memories.
Children remember the intention given by parents
A game of hide and seek, a sand castle, a walk in the park, a chocolate pancake on a bench… All these little moments spent with your child – however young they may be – are not trivial.
According to psychologist Carol Kim, children do indeed remember the many quality moments spent with their parents.
And for good reason, “Taking time to just focus on your child is very special,” she says. because these moments show him that you are present for him.
The child thus feels loved, valued, listened to.
“As parents, our words and actions can leave emotional imprints on our children, even when specific events fade from memory. Feeling loved and supported helps children develop their self-esteem, confidence in self”adds the expert.
Words of encouragement are remembered
Encouraging your child would indeed positively influence his memories.
“Children often seek approval from their parents and your positive words can be a strong motivator and source of comfort.”explains Carol Kim.
Another particularly striking memory, again according to the expert: family traditions.
“It creates a sense of stability and unity. These rituals, like holiday celebrations, weekend routines, annual trips, provide structure and something to look forward to, strengthening family bonds.”reveals the specialist.
These precious moments allow the child to understand (and integrate) family values, to feel connected to other members of the family and to feel a sense of security.
Develop kindness and empathy in toddlers
Finally, the psychologist recommends showing kindness to others and showing your child these small everyday gestures. By seeing you do it, and imitating your actions, the child will increase his empathy tenfold.
Carol Kim also says it’s necessary to support children when they are sad, scared or angry, because that’s when they need your attention the most – and when they will remember , later, to have been reassured.
“Parenting isn’t about being perfect, it’s about how we deal with our imperfections. Showing kindness and empathy teaches valuable lessons, and talking about mistakes shows resilience.”concludes the specialist.