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When you’ve been single for several years, you inevitably ask yourself questions. And it’s easy to say “it’s our fault.” However, this is not the case and here are seven reasons that prove it.
Not finding your other half can become burdensome for some people. So much so that they end up having a hard time dealing with their single status, feeling guilty and thinking that something is wrong with them. If you recognize yourself in this description, remember that you are not to blame, here’s why.
Being single is not a failure
Singleness is not necessarily a bad thing. This status is very often associated with being unattractive or having a bad temper. Is being single a mistake? No, these individuals simply haven’t found a suitable person for them.
It’s normal to want to be in a relationship
Often, when a person has been single for a long time and complains about their status, they are asked why they just can’t cope with the situation. Remember that this type of remark is condescending and that you are not ashamed to want something that is natural, man being a profoundly social creature. It’s normal to want to start a family and find the partner who suits you, for that.
Even if you want a relationship, you should not impose it on the other
It’s a common mistake single people make: begging someone to be in a relationship with them. Things should happen naturally, without forcing. If this is not the case, it can lead you into a resentful relationship, eventually, or into a toxic relationship, where you are constantly seeking each other’s attention.
Don’t lower your standards to find someone
This applies to both men and women: if you want to find your other half, don’t lower your standards. This may lead you into unhealthy relationships that will damage your self-esteem and will most likely be dysfunctional.
There Are Reasons You’re Single (And Some You Can Fix)
We must not hide our faces: to attract a person, you must be attractive, that’s a fact. But that’s not all. Also ask yourself the following questions:
- Do I have a decent income?
- Is my life enviable?
- Do I harbor resentment or even hatred towards others?
- Do I appear mentally stable to people?
- Can I offer anything to others?
- Physically, is there anything I can do to make myself more attractive?
This questioning can allow you to find true love. If this is not the case, it remains useful, because it maximizes the chances of being able to start other types of relationships, even friendly ones.
Your failures in love say a lot about you
Analyze your previous relationships and how they ended. If your ex girlfriend only liked you for your money and left you when you lost your job, it means she didn’t really love you. So if someone refuses to be in a relationship with you, believe them and don’t force things.
You never know what could happen
Some people in relationships have met their other half in unlikely circumstances. Also, when it comes to romantic relationships, it is important to keep an open mind: it is possible that meeting your future spouse will take place when you least expect it.
Slide: The benefits of being single