For the psychotherapist, this characteristic will allow them to have a much more peaceful and nourishing life compared to others.
During our lives, we sometimes come across children, but also adults who seem neither friendly nor smiling. They can be unpleasant, impatient or even aggressive, which can be surprising or hurtful. This attitude, often perceived as a lack of empathy, is not always intentional. It can be a reflection of discomfort, stress or an education that did not promote listening and kindness. In daily life, this can complicate relationships with others, whether classmates, colleagues, or family members. At work too, this can slow down certain opportunities. Precisely, to avoid this, the psychologist Caroline Goldman explains, in her new book “Guide for Today’s Parents” (Editions Flammarion), that there is one thing to put in place in the way of educating your children .
This solution is to cultivate one characteristic in particular: that of being “nice”. Indeed, according to the expert, this trait, if cultivated from childhood, has many advantages on a personal, social, but also professional level. “The lives of nice people are simpler, peaceful and nourishing than those of others who are not, from the nursery to the retirement home (…) this trait also propels interprofessional relationships”she emphasizes.. In general, it is not enough for a child to be a good student or a good student. It has to be done “socio-relational beings, capable of being attentive to others and generous”, explains Caroline Goldman in her book.
Thus, to cultivate sympathy in the child, it is appropriate to show him by example, “by being nice to him and to each other, parents”, advises the psychologist. Subsequently, it is essential “to encourage his kindness and make him aware of the joy of making people happy”. This will allow him to fully deploy his qualities and avoid succumbing to selfishness or jealousy. For example, you can say: “Congratulate your sister, she has managed to take her first steps”, “You can offer him your help, he will be happy”, etc. Clearly, the child must hear and understand the words “love, joy, empathy, and educational boundaries” to become “nice”!