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Just when you thought everything was going well, suddenly you don’t hear from your partner anymore. You’ve been ghosted and it hurts you deeply, that’s normal. How can you get over it? Here are three tips from an expert.
People who have had this happen to them will tell you: they didn’t see it coming. For them, everything was going well in their relationship and then suddenly, their partner disappears without a trace. Being ghosted is extremely hurtful and you immediately wonder what you did to “deserve this”.
How to overcome this ordeal? Aria Campbell Danesh, clinical psychologist, reveals her advice on the site Your Tango.
Don’t take it personally
“Remember that ghosting is a reflection of the other person’s inability to handle confrontation, not your worth.” explains Aria Campbell Danesh. “This type of person does not want to deal with emotions complicated or learn to be vulnerable, because being vulnerable is being weak in their eyes. They would much rather put their feelings aside and run away.”.
You simply came across a bad person, who instead of confronting you to express what he feels, preferred to run away without giving you the opportunity to ask him why.
Put a conclusion to the story yourself
The second piece of advice from the expert is to put an end to this story yourself.You May Never Get the Answers You Want From the Person Who Ghosted You” says Aria Campbell Danesh. “So try to take stock of this relationship with yourself or a close friend, in order to draw all the conclusions.” he advises. Even if it wasn’t the ending you were hoping for, it’s important to go through this step, in order to move forward.
Learn from this story
Once you’ve gotten past that, it’s time to refocus on yourself.”Put yourself first. Do the things that make you happy and fulfilled and surround yourself with people who value you.” recommends the expert.
Even if you don’t necessarily feel like seeing your friends or going out, do it. Finally, for the psychologist, the experience must also serve you. “This is an opportunity to reinforce your self-worth and set healthier boundaries for the future.” he concluded.
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