To start the year off right and have good relationships with your children’s teachers, here is the sentence to avoid saying (even if you are convinced of it).
Children and mischief, they know them! From a very young age, little ones tend to push the limits, test your authority, and even dare to accuse the brother or sister to get out of a situation in which they know they could be reprimanded.It’s not me, it’s him!” they tell you with such aplomb that you no longer know who to believe. Except that at their age, you quickly recognize who is telling the truth. As they grow up, parents often manage to establish a relationship of trust and communication between the child and the adult is facilitated.
Also, when they start primary or secondary school, some parents are shocked when they are called in for their child’s inappropriate behaviour. And the first reaction we have as parents is to believe our child (or to find excuses for them).Maybe he wanted to defend himself?“. Others play the surprise card by answering the professor”my child would never do such a thing“, Or “my child never lies”…
According to Deepali Deshmukh, a school principal in California, questioning the teacher’s word to give more credit to her child is counterproductive. “School, like home, is a safe space where children can make mistakes and learn from them.“, she explains. She reminds us that teachers are not there to accuse the child or criticize the parents’ education. If they summon you, it is above all to manage conflict situations and teach the child to behave better in class.
It is therefore advisable to discuss the situation with your child and teach him to always tell you the truth, even if he has to admit that he is wrong. In this way, you will always be able to intervene to defend him, knowing the facts and without losing your credibility. “He knows he did wrong and won’t do it again, we’re going to talk to him about it.”might be a more appropriate approach depending on the situation. And if he is not at fault, he will then be proud and reassured to see his parent defend him and go along with him.