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Do you feel like things are not the same in your relationship? When in doubt, certain signals may indicate the need to renew yourself, take stock… or end this relationship that is running out of steam. Here are 9 red flags to know so you can ask yourself the right questions.
Maintaining a fulfilling romantic relationship is not easy. It is experienced as a couple, and despite your efforts, you will probably not be spared from the little moments of depression. But sometimes, the relationship that is established becomes problematic and can, in the long term, affect your self-esteem and damage your story. To avoid this, a couples therapist has identified 9 red flags to identify, indicating that something is wrong in your relationship.
You no longer trust what your partner says
Perhaps you doubt most of the things your partner says. Worse, you find that you’re constantly looking for clues that they’re lying. Well, against all odds, this constant doubt (if it’s new) may be a sign that your partner isn’t treating you very well.Every relationship should be built on trust and honesty. If you don’t have that, what’s the point of being together?” Kristina Ivanova recalls in the media I Heart Intelligence.
You constantly put yourself in second place
Of course, when you’re in a relationship, you have to pay attention to your partner’s needs and sometimes you put them first. However, if you find yourself consistently ignoring your own needs, or putting them aside until everyone is happy, then the partnership between you and your significant other is somewhat shaky. You need to do something about it.
Your intuition is always telling you that something is wrong.
If you often have a strange feeling that something is wrong, it could be a serious indicator of a problem between you and your partner. It could be your body telling you to stop ignoring reality and finally asking you to face your problems. Even if you don’t want to admit or accept that there is something wrong in your relationship, your heart is there to remind you to take care of yourself. Listen to it.
You no longer spend quality time together
Time together is necessary in a relationship. When one of you is intentionally trying to avoid your partner, it’s often a sign that something is wrong between you. If you’re often drifting apart, you’re at risk of losing the connection you once had. Assuming this is the case for you, your relationship needs a good reevaluation and a lot of work on your part.
You no longer sleep peacefully
When was the last time your sleep wasn’t disrupted? But if your sleep cycles are often interrupted or you simply can’t close your eyes before 3 a.m., this could be a sign of stress-related issues. This could be the case with a difficult situation, a work problem, or a relationship that no longer suits you.
You no longer feel comfortable introducing your partner to others
Feeling uncomfortable with mixing your partner with friends or family is a huge red flag. Why would you be with someone who makes you feel ashamed? Whether the problem is with you or your partner, being in a relationship should be about well-being and pride, not the other way around.
You can’t remember the last time you went out with a friend.
Honestly, when was that? Maybe you’ve noticed that you’ve been ignoring your friends and family lately. If this is somehow related to your partner’s wishes, you may need to talk to them and ask why they’re keeping you away from these people. Cutting everyone out of your life the second you get into a relationship can be extremely detrimental to your mental health and social life.
Your relationship feels like a competition
A romantic relationship thrives when there is balance. If you or your partner are constantly figuring out who is doing more for your so-called partnership, balance is probably lacking.You have to be on the same team, not compare and compete with each other. There should not be a winner and a loser, but only two people who help and respect each other.”
You feel like your partner is trying to manipulate you
This might be one of the most obvious and scariest red flags. Even if you think you’re madly in love with your partner, be wary if you feel like you’re being manipulated. This person may not be who you think they are. Particularly noteworthy are phrases like “If you really loved me, you would do it…” are a sign that it is especially necessary to get out of this toxic relationship.
This shouldn’t be a constant situation between you and your partner. So, don’t be blind to these negative aspects and pay attention to these red flags.
Slide: 10 Signs You’re in a Toxic Relationship