These signs that show that your relationship is going through a major crisis

Life as a couple is not a long, quiet river and over time, the beautiful relationship at the beginning may have to face challenges, even obstacles. Sometimes, unfortunately, the difficulty turns into a real existential crisis, more difficult to manage. How to differentiate a difficult passage from a major crisis? The site specialized in romantic relationships Yourtango has listed 5 signs that can put you on the right track.

You keep your resentments, more numerous, to yourself.

While it is normal to have negative feelings toward your partner from time to time, keeping them to yourself is more problematic. You may have developed this habit as a child and in your upbringing, but in a relationship, keeping these feelings to yourself does not help you overcome emotional pain, quite the contrary. In fact, these feelings can gradually build up between you and your partner if this way of reacting is not corrected.

Quarrels increase, but they are fruitless.

A quarrel is a conflict between two partners who react immaturely, without the will to listen or be connected to the other person. In this case, the argument is sterile since neither partner feels heard. A situation that can lead to total couple war and separation.

Why do we react this way? It may be our model, if our parents have also separated, but it is not a solution. The key is to grow together and find a way to put the stress aside to arrive at a solution, and no longer a vain quarrel.

Intimate closeness decreases (and is less intense)

Due to stress, or an event (the arrival of a baby for example), there are periods in life when desire and intimacy are less. However, if this pattern continues beyond short periods, it could mean that the couple is settling into routines that leave aside the “intimate” part of their relationship.Couples can get used to this and become more disconnected, which can lead toinfidelitydivorce or other emotional symptoms such as anxiety or depression” recalls the site.

You settle into a mechanical routine

Be careful if you notice that your relationship is all about tasks to be done and a to-do list. You are not just domestic partners! Letting the functional routine set in can signal the end of a relationship. Because at least one of the two partners will be thirsty for passion, renewal and simply love.

You feel increasingly misunderstood by your partner

One of the pillars of a balanced relationship is feeling understood and in tune with your partner, the majority of the time. When partners no longer feel understood, on both sides, it can lead to other symptoms already mentioned, such as quarrels, withdrawal, less intimacy and relationship boredom. If you feel several of these ailments, it is time to react or make a decision.

But the site assures us that if your relationship has worked well in the past, and you are ready to “work” your emotional muscle, together, without running away, then maybe it is possible to start again on a good basis. Start by opening up and communicating.

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