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Amélie Boukhobza (Clinical psychologist)
Highly anticipated by fans of the series, the second part of season 3 of The Bridgerton Chronicles has been available since Thursday on the Netflix platform. And the suspense is at its height: Penelope, who finally knows Colin’s reciprocal feelings, is hiding a huge secret from him. The opportunity to ask yourself: can we establish healthy foundations in a couple when one of the partners hides part of their life?
Those who follow There Chronicle of the Bridgertons on Netflix will finally be able to breathe: since this Thursday, June 13, the second part of the third season is available. The first part, centered on the couple Pénélope and Colin, ended in May with a cult finale (and a torrid scene in a carriage!). Finally, Colin, the childhood friend, revealed himself. He intends to marry Penelope (sigh of relief). But there’s a small problem: he doesn’t know that his fiancée is also the person who writes under a pseudonym about the entire London bourgeoisie… and therefore about him and his family.
The secret in building the couple at the heart of this season
The whole issue of this second part seems to be based on this point: will Penelope reveal her true identity or not, out of love for Colin (but at the risk of losing him), and will he be able to to forgive him… Tensions (in a silk dress) are to be expected!
But beneath an incredible scenario, the series still raises a real question: can we hope to form real romantic bonds when we hide part of our life, or an old secret, from our partner. So we asked the question to a psychologist who sees a lot of couples in practice.
A dark secret can shake up an entire relationship
For Amélie Boukhobza, the subject is sensitive, especially if you have to say YES to your partner. “The question of commitment and marriage when you hide a dark secret from your partner is not nothing! This poses crucial questions about trust, honesty and the true nature of commitment.”
For what ? Because despite all the love at stake, and the compatibility between two people, it is worth remembering that trust and honesty are the pillars of a solid relationship. Making the decision to hide a dark secret can inevitably shake these foundations, generating tension, uncertainty and doubt.
“These elements can become harmful breaches in the long term for the relationship, you need to know before committing and keeping quiet about it.”
Should we reveal our secrets or not, before the big day?
You are ashamed of an episode from your past, of a trauma, a part of your daily life is still impacted by a decision (you are still married, you have debts, a problem with the law, etc.) unfortunately, put the subject sideways will not allow a solid couple to form. It is therefore necessary to raise the subject before fully committing, in order to leave the other person free to make their choices.
“Even if we want to protect our partner from pain or complications, and even if we think we are doing the right thing, things left unsaid are never good, because they prevent authentic intimacy within the couple.” insists the expert.
On the other hand, it all depends on what you have in stock: “This doesn’t mean you have to bring up your entire past. The past, the exes, the real stories… which are private to you, who cares, they can stay that way. It’s up to you. But a secret, a lie that can impact your life and your other half, is different. With him, no relationship of trust will be possible.”
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