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The usual pattern – and one that we often apply as parents to our children – is to punish mistakes. However, according to Vanessa LoBue, a psychology professor, it would on the contrary be excellent for the education of our dear little ones. Doctissimo tells you more.
Everyone makes mistakes and this is often how we learn from a situation. So instead of blaming children for this, Vanessa LoBue, psychology professor, explains on the Psychology Today website that on the contrary, they should be used as educational tools.
Admitting your mistakes is difficult
According to the expert, making mistakes is common. “Even though we don’t like to make mistakes, we all make them, and we make them every day.”
For the education of a child, the interest is therefore to teach him to recognize his mistakes. This allows us to discuss it with him and draw the necessary conclusions, so that he learns the lesson. But as the expert rightly points out, it is “difficult to teach good behaviors so they can become competent adults”if children hide their mistakes.
Vanessa LoBue therefore advises parents to encourage children from an early age to admit their faults. Must therefore “Praise children who recognize their mistakes (instead of punishing them).” That “could be a way of encouraging them to recognize (them)”
Share your experience with them
According to the psychology professor, “making mistakes turns out to be a tool learning very powerful when these errors are recognized and children receive appropriate feedback“.
To enable them to acquire this, another tip is to do the same thing, as an adult: admit your mistakes and learn the lesson. “A simple method that can be used at home is to show how to admit and deal with your mistakes instead of keeping them to yourself.” she recommends. By recounting your misadventures, your children will be able to “laugh about it and learn a powerful lesson: that everyone (even mom) makes mistakes.” she concludes.
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