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Johanna Rozenblum (clinical psychologist)
After a breakup, when is the best time to start a new relationship? If the answer to this question is specific to each person, it is commonly accepted that a period of time is still necessary to “mourn” the previous union. Here are the elements to take into account, according to Johanna Rozenblum, clinical psychologist.
How long should you wait after a breakup before getting back together? The question probably doesn’t have a universal answer, but there are signs that the separation is now a thing of the past and you’re ready to look to the future.
Be sensitive to seduction
While just a few weeks ago, you didn’t notice anyone, now you want to interact more with others. You are even sensitive to compliments or possible attempts at seduction that you might receive. It’s official: you can think about getting back together, the image of your ex is nothing more than a shadow in your mind from now on.
Imagine starting a new story
Precisely, beyond being sensitive to flirting attempts, you start to think about starting a new affair. You may not know who, but if even just thinking about the idea doesn’t turn you off, that’s a good sign.
Stop ruminating on the past
After spending hours wondering how you could have ended up separating, this question no longer bothers you. It’s because you stopped ruminating, you accepted the situation and it belongs to the past, from now on.
Wanting to socialize and meet new people
Little by little, do you want to meet new people again? It is also a sign that you are open to meeting new people and therefore potentially to a new partner.
Take care of yourself
No more days spent in pajamas with a tub of ice cream as your only companion! You want to get ready to go out again and this shows that the separation you experienced no longer affects you.
Understand what you want and what you no longer want
A separation always hurts, but there are positive lessons to be learned from it. For example, it is an opportunity to take stock of what you are looking for in a relationship and also to draw a line under the behaviors, toxic or not, that you will no longer accept. If you can make this point with yourself, it is proof that you have moved on and that you want a new relationship, better than the last one.
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