If you’re a TikTok regular, you probably haven’t missed the “Lucky Girl Syndrome” trend. Having gone viral, the method promises to make us luckier on a daily basis, sometimes in 30 days. But beware of toxic positivity!
What is Lucky Girl Syndrome?
With over 400 million views on TikTokimpossible to miss the Lucky Girl Syndrome, the lucky girl syndrome” in French. This miracle method would allow to attract luck by persuading themselves. “This is a trend conveyed by the generation Z on the social network. She suggests that you can get the things you want, if you convince yourself that they belong to you Already“, explains Kimberly Vered Shashoua, therapist. For the specialist, it is a new name given to the law of attraction (and the law of assumption), a belief that our thoughts influence our lives. “The idea is the same, except that the Lucky Girl Syndrome often targets the youngest“, she continues. According to the therapist, magical thoughts have always existed. “There is so much uncertainty right now that it feels like we are in control of our lives. Thus, it is almost normal for people to be drawn to this method.“, she explains of the craze for the practice.
What is it about ? How to have more chances?
The key to success lies in the repetition of positive affirmations. On TikTok, the user @soulcialbohemia recommends, for example, frequently repeat phrases such as “I feel lucky”, “Everything smiles on me”, “I am very lucky”, “My life is full”, or “Everything is fine”. Another explains that verbalize positive “mantras” and visualize your goals would have changed his life. “I understood that it was important for it to become a state of mind. I started by visualizing a new group of friends, an apartment and a new job. Then everything happened very quickly“, explains the one who practice daily, as a routine.
Beware of toxic positivity!
Does it make you happier?
Like the law of attraction, the Lucky Girl Syndrome allows you to set intentions. On paper, it can therefore be beneficial and make you happier. Kimberly Vered Shashoua nevertheless wishes to qualify. “The Law of Attraction, Law of Assumption or Lucky Girl Syndrome has never been proven to exist. beyond the anecdotes. If the Lucky Girl Syndrome were effective, we would all be able to test it and provide proof, which is not the case.“, details the therapist. “In addition, many personalities such as Napoleon Hill and Rhonda Byrne – who promoted these methods – have since been accused of being charlatans“, she concludes.
What are the limits and risks of this method?
Lucky Girl Syndrome is said to have many disadvantages, including the toxic positivity. “It is a belief that we must always be positive, even if it means ignoring reality“, emphasizes the therapist. “The Lucky Girl Syndrome suggests that one should suppress our ”negative” thoughts which is not healthy. If we are in bad shape, we cannot ignore them, because that would be lying to ourselves. Research has shown that when we don’t face reality, and repeat things we know are wrong, we feel even worse.“, she specifies. According to herimagining that our thoughts control our life makes you feel guilty and has harmful effects. “If things go wrong, if we lose our job, if we have depression or if our pet is sick, for example, we may tend to think that these events happened because of us and our thoughts.“, warns Kimberly Vered Shashoua. It would reinforce a sense of shame, denial and guilt which could have consequences especially when it comes to health. “If we suffer from depressionfor example, relying on such thoughts can lead to ignoring symptoms, not seeing a therapist, and not accessing drug treatment“.
Thanks to Kimberly Vered Shashoua, therapist.